Did you have a chance to read Anne Almasy’s article on the lies we’re being told by the wedding industry? She does a great job of articulating those quiet voices that are so hard to ignore when making decisions about our wedding. If you haven’t read her article, stop reading this post, click here, read what she has to stay, and then pop back over here!
Reflecting on the lies Almasy’s highlighted, I started to consider what I’m being told about weddings that is true.
Here are five things that I hope will be true about my wedding:
- My wedding will go against the grain of wedding culture. If you’re on this blog reading what my fellow BSB bloggers have written, you know that we believe we can have a meaningful wedding without the wedding industry defining what a successful, beautiful wedding is. That’s pretty counter-cultural in a society that embraces materialism and appearances.
- My wedding will be a solemn event. The word solemn is too often thought of as stoic. But look it up in a dictionary, and you’ll discover that it’s also synonymous for sincere, earnest and heartfelt. I want every element of my wedding to express that Mr. M and I are approaching our marriage thoughtfully and wholeheartedly.
- My wedding will be a time for family and friends. I am so excited to have all the people we love in one place. We kept the guest list as small as possible (200 people, which was pretty amazing since we’re getting married in my hometown) so that we would be enjoying the day with the people with whom we have shared life.
- My wedding will be a joy-filled celebration. Although the wedding will be solemn, I hope it will also be a day filled with laughter and savoring the goodness of life– Enjoying good food,dancing to good music, and being with the people we love!
- My wedding will change my life. That truth is pretty self-explanatory. We’re having a wedding to get married, and marriage will mean significant and immediate life changes for Mr. M and me. Moreover, we know this decision to marry will impact everyday for the rest of our lives too. What will happen at this wedding will be the second most life-altering event of my life… and that’s kind of a big (and exciting) deal.
It’s important that we not only listen to the lies we’re told about weddings and marriage, but be aware of the beauty and truths that can be easily overlooked. Are there any lies that you’ve caught yourself believing about weddings/marriage? Any truths you’d care to share?