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Sorry I didn’t have a fun new post for you yesterday. I wasn’t in much of a posting mood, to be honest. As always, I try to share the ups and the downs with you, and after a day to think I feel ready to share another down point…

As many of you know, E and I have been living long distance since I lost my job back in December. E still had a job in Knoxville so he was going to stay at that job until he found something in Nashville. Unfortunately, he hasn’t been able to find anything yet… and he was laid off from his job on Wednesday… the day we sent out our wedding invitations. Fantastic timing, right?

Not that we can’t still have the wedding just because he lost his job. Truth is, the money we’ve saved is enough to pay for the wedding, so we’re fine. But it just came at a really terrible time- which only adds to my already sky-high stress level.

But there are positives to this situation. First- he’s going to be living in the same time zone as me! Second, he’ll be able to more actively look for a job. But it makes it even more scary that our financial situation is going to be under lots of stress at the start of our marriage. We don’t know where we’re going to live once we’re married. Living with either sets of our parents is obviously not the ideal situation, and most likely would only make things harder in some ways. But the harsh reality is we might not have a choice if E isn’t able to find a job by the time we are married. Even with all of the crap that has happened over the past few months, I can honestly say that my relationship with E is stronger than ever- I know that once we get through all of this that the worst will be behind us!

So that’s where we’re at right now…. E is unemployed… I’ve got part time work… we’re gonna have to just make do with the cards we’ve been dealt and make the best of it. I’ve gotten such a great response from our wedding invitations and I am oh-so-happy to celebrate that small victory in the midst of all the negativity. The buzz from the invites has generated alot of inquiries about design services and I am excited about the prospects of so many different new projects. PS- if you’ve emailed me about graphic design work, please be patient with me because I’m swimming in emails at the moment! :)

I hope you all have a lovely weekend. Stay tuned to see Bridesmaid dress #4 on Monday! :)

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Jessica is the creator of The Budget Savvy Bride; she launched the site in May of 2008, shortly after becoming engaged. Jessica has been recognized as a budget wedding expert by various media outlets and continues to share realistic inspiration and actionable tips to help brides save money on their weddings. Google

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  • http://broomjumpingbride.blogspot.com Dana

    You know this is a real test of your relationship and I am happy that your relationship is stronger than ever. All good things come to those who wait…you guys time is coming. Just think that you can get all the hard stuff out the wait and the rest of your relationship will be smooth sailing.

    Your invitations are beautiful. You should open a shop on Esty. May this is a blessing for self employment.

  • http://www.elegantevententertainment.com Elegant Event Entertainment

    I’m sorry for the unfortunate situation. Dana is right. We just posted a blog on our website. 75 different ways to save for your wedding, if you want to check it out. Good luck with everything

  • http://oliveyoudeerly.blogspot.com Ashley

    This kills me, Jessica. When you texted me yesterday, I just about died. I’m so sorry, but I have no doubt that the two of y’all will make something wonderful happen soon. : )

  • http://www.big-wedding-tiny-budget.com Liz

    Everything happens for a reason – and everything WILL work out for the best. Try not to focus too much of your energy on the negative aspect of it right now. Sending Happy Happy Wonderful Wedding Thoughts your way….

  • Leika

    I’m so sorry — you two really didn’t need anything else right now. You’re amazing for looking for the positives, and letting life’s challenges bring you two closer together, rather than straining your relationship. You can have no doubt that you will both mean it when you say “for better or worse!”

    You are definitely talented, and I’m sure the design inquiries will continue to come through. I know you know this, but you’ll get through this — we’re all rooting for you!

  • http://amylynnfrank.blogspot.com amy

    boo. i’m sorry. it’s so scary. you know, i’m from nashville, and might be able to help..you know a lot of people hire thru referrals…what kind of job is he looking for?

  • Meredith

    I just wanted to tell you that I have spent the past 2 days reading your ENTIRE blog. Yup, that’s right all the way back to the very beginning. I do not even remember how I stumbled upon your blog but I have to tell you I am SO HAPPY I DID! You have provided me with great tips and inspiration for my own budget friendly wedding (maybe if I ever get my blog going I’ll share it with you). I just wanted to tell you I feel like I know you (lame, I know), so when I read this post I got so sad for you! But these things have a way of working themselves out and making you stronger, so do not let this get you tooooo down!

  • http://aglimpseofthegirlnextdoor.blogspot.com Abbie

    My thoughts are… if you can get through what you’ve been through right now, then you should be able to get through anything together! This will truly be a test, but you can stay strong! Good luck!

  • http://cheapandeasywedding.blogspot.com/ Lisa

    We are in a similar situation & I admit that sometimes it gets the better of me but I just keep telling myself we’ll get through it. It won’t be the last time your relationship is tested but each time you get through something like this, you are stronger on the other side. I will likely be contacting you about our invites as well but I’ve got a little time so I won’t overwhelm you with more right now.

  • http://aubergineink.blogspot.com Aubergine

    I just wanted to say that I’m sorry you’re having a crappy time. I hope things get better for you soon.

    I thought your invitations looked great too!

  • http://gettingmymrs.blogspot.com Omy

    that which does not kill you only makes you stronger. You’re obviously very talented and you having the free time allowed you to make amazing invites which= attention and prospective clients… you have amazing things coming your way!

  • http://blushingjoy.blogspot.com Joyce

    Sorry to hear about E losing his job. It’s great that you’re still being optimistic about things, because I won’t be. Well, I was depressed for about a week when I lost mine! :>

    Keep your chin up because you never know, something much better might be around the corner!

  • http://soontobemeltons.blogspot.com Brittney

    I COMPLETELY understand… Although we are not in the exact same predicament…

    My fiance graduated from college this past December and has STILL not found a job. We are getting married a few weeks after you are and I’m getting nervous. Thankfully I have a job, but with apartment costs and everything for the two of us, that’s not saying much. Every time I worry, I will be thinking and praying for you as well.

    I’m hoping things are going to start looking up soon. For you, me and EVERYBODY!!!

  • J BRIDE

    I’m sorry about your situation, but we’re in the same boat honey – I completly understand where you are comming from. My fiance lost his job in January and hasn’t been able to find ANYTHING – while I am going to school full time and am only able to work part time and freelance when something comes along. We will get through it – things will fall into place…you are not alone :)

  • Pam

    Your positive attitude is inspiring! It is so easy to focus on the negative when something goes wrong… I am so proud of you for taking a different look at the situation. We are keeping yall’ in our thoughts and prayers! 

  • http://queentakesaking.blogspot.com Amy

    I know how you feel. I was told Thursday after signing off on a mortgage loan that my job was cut out of the budget. So, as of May 1 I don’t have a job. Sigh. But our wedding is mostly paid for. But our house definitely isn’t. Good luck to E. I wish you both great things. You deserve them. Bring happiness to you and happiness will surround you.

  • Marianne

    I’m so sorry to hear this, Jessica! What awful timing. Make sure you are taking extra care of yourselves and each other during all this stress.

    We’ve just found out that A’s job may be at risk if things don’t stabilize for his company soon, and it’s definitely scary and stressful!

  • http://marie-evelaforte.blogspot.com Marie-Eve

    Sorry about this other woe… Genuinely hope that everything will turn out alright for you… But I know you’ll get through this. Never lose hope…

  • Nicole-Lynn

    Aw, I’m really sorry to hear that. I know this is a difficult time, not just for you and your fiance, but for EVERYONE. The economy is effecting a lot of us in many different ways. You will get through this, have faith.

  • http://abridesbigday.wordpress.com/ Sherry

    Sorry to hear about the job situation. My husband and I both lost our jobs this past week…I knew a few weeks in advance, but his was more unpredictable. Tell E to keep a smile on his face, and something fab will turn up. It’s all about attitude!