If you’re like everyone else in the world, you began your new year thinking of resolutions to better yourself. I always have a ton. I never stick to them.
In addition to my usual ‘lose weight,’ ‘eat healthy,’ and the like resolutions, I had a couple of things that were FUN for me.
1) to read more
2) to spend more time with girlfriends
So when some friends of mine decided to start a book club, I knew that it would kill two birds with one stone!
For those of you that think Book Club is for just old ladies… you’re wrong. At least not the way we do it.
Here’s how it works
- Members: 8-12 people
- Monthly meetings
- Rotate hosting duties
- b.y.o.w. (bring your own wine),
- appetizers to be served by the hostess
My two friends who started the club shared the news with their friends, and told them to invite a friend if they liked. I don’t think anyone knew every person who showed up, but it didn’t matter. We spent the first hour or so socializing; chatting and catching up with the ones we did know, and introducing ourselves and getting to know the ones we didn’t. We went through quite a few bottles of wine, some delicious snacks, and then we got down to business.
Our first book, as I said earlier this week, was Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. Well, only 3 of the 10 ladies that showed up got to finish the book. Oops! Even I only got 3/4 of the way through it. But it didn’t matter… Our conversation evolved from talking about the book to sharing parts of our lives with each other. It’s just so great to be in a group of women, no matter how different, and getting so many viewpoints. We all share this common bond as women, and this particular book brought up alot of issues about how so many women are scared to choose their own happiness over everyone else’s. We ended up chatting until around 10pm when we decided to wrap it up. I still plan to finish the book because I’m really enjoying it.
The great thing about book club is it is an excuse to get together with girls. So often since we got married, E and I always end up hanging out with other couples, or hanging out just the two of us. We become an US, and not two separate identities. So last night was a great excuse for E to hang out with his guy friends (who happened to be husbands of the girls at book club). It’s a GOOD thing to have some separate interests…and it’s good to spend some time apart and have fun with our respective friends! It’s easy to get lost in the comfort of married life, but you don’t have to give up things that make you happy!
Best of all, book club is not an expensive night out! I borrowed my book from the local library. A cheap bottle of wine and a few snacks and you’ve got all the makings of a great girl’s night in. I definitely recommend it, if you’re feeling starved for girl time and need a good excuse, especially if you can’t afford expensive girls’ nights out!
Our book for next month is Water For Elephants by Sara Gruen, just in case you were curious.
What do you do when you need some time with the girls? Have you found an outlet that works for you? How do you work that girl time into your schedule?