Comments on: The P-Word: Choosing to Postpone Your Wedding http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/ Budget Wedding Blog : Beautiful Weddings Without Breaking the Bank Fri, 31 Oct 2014 17:36:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 By: Michelle http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-187223 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 07:38:24 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-187223 Fiance and I just decided to postpone our wedding. It came as family started getting upset about who is and is not invited (although I haven’t spoken to most of them in years and they have never met my fiance). Also financial constraints on both our sides and my parents were going to help pay for the wedding. We know a lot of people and the original guest list was 180, cut down to 115. It didn’t feel right and we still have to break the news to everyone. It was still 8 months to go, but the uneasiness it created between family and friends just wasn’t what we expected and broke our hearts. The venue was beautiful, but too expensive. The photographer was perfect but too expensive. Having to cut our guest list was heartbreaking.. Making that final decision to postpone indefinitely until we have enough financial security to pay for it ourselves, was gut-wrenching. But in the end we made the decision together and I feel more relaxed, more in love and excited for when we start the process again. We spoke to level headed people about our decision and some say, ‘go for it’ it is YOUR day! Don’t worry about what other people want, others said why throw a lavish celebration if you can use that money as a deposit on a car, BUY a car or deposit on a house. In the end, we both decided to step back and reevaluate the situation. That a ring on my finger could result in such an uncomfortable experience :(. In the end, a wedding consists of two things – the Marriage & the Celebration. We are deciding to focus more on the Marriage part for now. There is no rush :)

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By: Renae http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43532 Thu, 03 Jan 2013 17:46:01 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43532 Hi Tammy! It’s great to know that my post was a blessing to you. I know how devastating and embarrassing it feels to have to postpone a wedding by 1 year. But the peace in mind you receive from not stressing about how to pay for the wedding now, and not starting your marriage in debt, makes it worth it!
You’re welcome!
-renae

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By: Budget Savvy Bride http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43506 Thu, 03 Jan 2013 03:22:29 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43506 I just got goosebumps and a tear in my eye reading your comment! I am so glad that you found this post and that it has helped you feel a little less alone in this sticky situation. Wishing you happiness and blessings in the year to come! xoxo Jessica

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By: Tammy http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43501 Thu, 03 Jan 2013 01:50:55 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43501 Your post blessed me. My fiance and I just made the decision to postpone our wedding. We were planning to wed July 6th, 2013. Now we are moving the wedding date to June 2014. On New Years Eve, my parents pulled out from helping us with the wedding. Long story short, they were never supportive of us getting married. My fiance is a recent brain cancer survivor, who finished school last year and now back working for an amazing company. My fiance proposed on Valentine’s Day last year. They were not happy at all. Simply because he is divorced and has a son. On Christmas, they infkrmed my fiancee that they would pay for our reception. A week later, they’ve decided to no longer help. Devastated, I felt that we would not be able to be financially prepared, especially without the financial assistance from my parents. We decided that we will focus on saving and move our date to next year rather than straining our minds, hearts, and pockets. I thank you for writing your post. I felt embarassed. But now I am excited that I may have my dream wedding and marriage after all.

Thank you so much. :)

~TammyJ

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By: Renae http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43488 Wed, 02 Jan 2013 17:57:21 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43488 Yes, it was hard to make this call, but it’s best for us in the long run. And you all are right, it’s not worth going into debt over 1 day! Thanks ya’ll!

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By: Denise http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43416 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 15:59:35 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43416 I got tempted to push back our wedding 2 months after sending out the Save the Dates! Only we were well within budget, had no issues sticking to it, and had no actual reason to push it back. Just cold feet, but I understand what it feels like to want to push back a wedding.

Smart call though, not spending all your savings on a wedding.

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By: Morgan http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43322 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 20:40:00 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43322 You are doing the big girl thing. Rock on. May your love strengthen from this experience. :)

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By: Terri http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/choosing-to-postpone-your-wedding/#comment-43315 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 16:11:46 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=18651#comment-43315 As difficult as it was, you made the right decision. When my fiance and I got engaged I held strong to the idea that we will not go in debt over one day/wedding. That’s what the marriage is for!

In all seriousness, after a price college education the both us were in enough debt as it is. That’s why we opted to get married in April 2013 rather than August 2012 as originally discussed. I think it’s the best decision we ever med. If pushing the wedding back means being financially sound and even more in love, I’m all for it.

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