This classic Ron Swanson dictum is one I try to live by, especially when making decisions about how to use my time and money. Unsurprisingly, when it comes to wedding planning, these words keep echoing through my mind offering me encouragement and affirmation when making tough decisions.
As we've been planning a wedding on a budget, Mr. M and I have decided we're going to focus on doing a few things well instead of trying to do several things so-so. This isn't easy. There are things we'd like to have at our wedding that just won't work in our budget. But, that's ok. Just because the latest magazine or most popular blog says you need X for the perfect wedding doesn't mean you really need it.
Here are three things Mr. M and I have decided to forego in order to keep within our budget.
Professional Flowers. Although we only have four attendants in our wedding, Mr. M and I are going to need 15+ boutonnières, flowers for 25ish tables, and 3 bouquets. Our flower budget is already tight, and we knew utilizing a professional florist would drastically limit what we could do. My aunts, grandmother and a family friend have experience with flower arranging and making bouquets and boutonnières. Utilizing their expertise, we'll be able to order our flowers in bulk and make plenty of bouquets, arrangements and boutonnières to suit our needs.
Favors. While we haven't completely ruled out favors, we wouldn't have a lot to spend on them and would rather that money go toward something else. We'll likely personally make personal donations to some of the organizations at Purdue we were involved with during our time there. The donation will be made in celebration of our marriage and to honor our guests.
Alcohol. Mr. M and I contend with G.K. Chesterton that “no animal ever invented anything as bad as drunkenness – or as good as drink.” I definitely appreciate a good draught beer. But, when Mr. M and I sat down to look at the budget, we figured we couldn't get what we wanted with the amount we had to spend. With the support of our caterer, we made a decision to forego alcohol altogether and direct that money somewhere else. This may be one of the hardest decisions we made re: the budget. However, it's also been a good “heart-check” for us to remind us our marriage is what we're celebrating, and it will happen even if we don't serve alcohol.
Everyone has different priorities when it comes to saving money. I recently read on a blog that some decisions aren't “right vs. wrong” but “right vs. left.” Make decisions that will take you the direction you want to go, be confident in your choice and ignore the voices that tell you that decision will take-away from their view of a “perfect wedding.”