As I’ve mentioned in previous entries, I’ve been a bridesmaid myself several times. Some of the dresses have been okay, some I have hated, but that’s beside the point– I’ve never once been able to re-wear a dress! One was a style that I could have re-worn, but it was not something that I would have ever chosen. I think that those experiences both helped and hurt my thought process when it came time to choose bridesmaid dresses for my girls.
I kept putting the decision off, and putting it off. I would get so irritated and unnecessarily worked up that I’d just need to get away from the thought of bridesmaid dresses. The problem was, the decision simply wasn’t getting made no matter what my excuse was. I was concerned with what shade of green to use, as the ceremony is outside and I didn’t want everything to blend in photos. I couldn’t have beige/neutral dresses, because the suits are going to be tan. After struggling with what dresses who would like, who might re-wear what dress, who could afford what and who couldn’t, what dress I could “see” one of the girls wearing, etc., I finally mass emailed (how personable, I know) my six maids, and told them I wasn’t doing it. I acknowledged that it sounded crazy, but that I was putting the decision off on each of them individually to find their own, and was not choosing bridesmaid dresses. I went on to explain that each girl needed to find a knee-length, green chiffon bridesmaid dress, and that I would like to approve them before they’re ordered to make sure that there weren’t clashing greens.
My Mom thought it was a considerate thing to do, I just simply got so sick of the struggle that I gave up. So far the girls haven’t ordered their dresses. With it being so close to the holidays I don’t really expect them to quite yet, just simply wanted to give everyone a heads up with my surrender and shoot more for ordering around February. I get a little concerned with how things will look together, but overall I’m very happy with my decision to go this route, and the girls all seem to be as well.
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Emily is a Nashville bride planning a rustic "barn" wedding on a $12k budget. She's a creative DIY'er and bargain hunter who enjoys music, golf, and her goldendoodle, Conway. Emily & her fiance Eric look forward to tying the knot in May, and throwing one big party full of wedded bliss afterwards.