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As I’ve mentioned in previous entries, I’ve been a bridesmaid myself several times.  Some of the dresses have been okay, some I have hated, but that’s beside the point– I’ve never once been able to re-wear a dress!  One was a style that I could have re-worn, but it was not something that I would have ever chosen.  I think that those experiences both helped and hurt my thought process when it came time to choose bridesmaid dresses for my girls.

These facial expressions from the movie “Bridesmaids” sum up my worst fears.

I kept putting the decision off, and putting it off.  I would get so irritated and unnecessarily worked up that I’d just need to get away from the thought of bridesmaid dresses.  The problem was, the decision simply wasn’t getting made no matter what my excuse was.  I was concerned with what shade of green to use, as the ceremony is outside and I didn’t want everything to blend in photos.  I couldn’t have beige/neutral dresses, because the suits are going to be tan.  After struggling with what dresses who would like, who might re-wear what dress, who could afford what and who couldn’t, what dress I could “see” one of the girls wearing, etc., I finally mass emailed (how personable, I know) my six maids, and told them I wasn’t doing it.  I acknowledged that it sounded crazy, but that I was putting the decision off on each of them individually to find their own, and was not choosing bridesmaid dresses.  I went on to explain that each girl needed to find a knee-length, green chiffon bridesmaid dress, and that I would like to approve them before they’re ordered to make sure that there weren’t clashing greens.

I want to stick with yellow undertones (instead of blue)

My Mom thought it was a considerate thing to do, I just simply got so sick of the struggle that I gave up.  So far the girls haven’t ordered their dresses.  With it being so close to the holidays I don’t really expect them to quite yet, just simply wanted to give everyone a heads up with my surrender and shoot more for ordering around February.  I get a little concerned with how things will look together, but overall I’m very happy with my decision to go this route, and the girls all seem to be as well.

Emily

 

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Emily is a Nashville bride planning a rustic "barn" wedding on a $12k budget. She's a creative DIY'er and bargain hunter who enjoys music, golf, and her goldendoodle, Conway. Emily & her fiance Eric look forward to tying the knot in May, and throwing one big party full of wedded bliss afterwards.

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  • Danielle

    Don’t worry about Emily, I’m doing the exact same thing. It’s one less thing to worry about!

  • Ngaire

    I am thinking about doing something very similar with greens and blues, but I am worried they might not end up going together (look like they are all going to different weddings). I have seen this look really good in several wedding pictures and would love to see how yours turn out!

  • http://www.thebudgetsavvybride.com/author/leahv LeahV

    I had just as much trouble making a decision about the colour and style for my bridesmaids as well! Hope everything works out for you and that the stress of the dresses can be lifted.

    xo L.

  • Sara

    I think this idea is becoming more and more popular. And a good call. I am letting my maids chose their own dresses and I am helping guide the style and color tone (blue without green undertones)by a pin board on pinterest titled “bridesmaid’s duds”. They can all refer back to it whenever they want as I add new styles, dresses I find on sale, and shoe ideas.

    • budgetsavvybride

      Pinterest is SUCH a great tool to use while planning a wedding!! Isn’t it addictive?? :)

  • Emily

    It’s reassuring to have some support with this! I wish I would have thought abotu the pinterest board for that purpose, Sara!