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So, let’s get down to the nitty gritty… the focus behind this blog… that’s right folks, I’m talking about THE BUDGET.

Truth is, as of right now ( 1 month post engagement ) I still don’t have a true idea of how much money we’ll have to work with. The fiance and I have determined that we will each save a significant amount of money each month to go to wedding related expenses. But unfortunately, I haven’t gotten a straight answer from my folks yet as to how much they will be able to contribute. The good news is, I’ve got some savings I could use- the bad news is, that was supposed to go to a down payment on a house. I’m not sure where to draw the line. On one hand, I want the wedding to be everything I ever dreamed of (within reason, of course), but on the other hand, I don’t want to blow my life’s savings on a day that, in the end, is just a day. Yes, it will be one of if not THE most important day of my life, but I have to remind myself that the most important thing to come out of this is the MARRIAGE not the WEDDING.

But I digress… basically, I’m using $10,000 as a starting point for the wedding budget. I’m hoping that it can be elegant yet simple, chic yet… CHEAP. Ya know? Luckily, I live in the south- and I’d say that puts me at an advantage cost-wise. I’m not planning some hoity-toity metropolitan black-tie affair. I want it to be fun, whimsical, enchanting, and I want it to be affordable. Is that really asking so much?

I’ve already figured out that I need to prioritize what I think are the most important things and therefore what I shoud spend the most money on. Here is my list of priorities:

  1. Numbero uno is DEFINITELY photography. Pictures are the only thing you have left once that wonderful day is over.
  2. Food. E and I are definitely foodies… or at least wannabe foodies. E went to culinary school for a while and he loves to cook- which is great for me because my repertoire of meal options pretty much consists of scrambled eggs, macaroni & cheese and frozen dinners. :) tee hee. So we definitely want to have some good eats at our reception.
  3. Alcohol. Even if it’s just beer and wine (and some Jack Daniels for my grandpa) I feel like it’s a necessity. I want everyone to have a good time and I mean, what is a wedding without at least a champagne toast
  4. Family and Friends. I want the people who mean the most to us and make us who we are to be present. Unfortunately, that might be a long list..
  5. Pretty invitations, programs, and other paper products. I’m a graphic designer, so this responsibilty will fall on my shoulders. Can you say DIY

Honestly, the rest is just unnecessary expenses. Outrageous flowers, fancy linens, ritzy venues. I just don’t really care. (I mean, I DO care. I am a bride, after all. Of course I care.) In the grand scheme of things, those details just don’t really matter all that much. I just want to marry E and live happily ever after.

Hopefully I’ll have a better idea of what will be possible once the folks give me a final answer on the budget.

Has anyone else had this problem? I feel so awkward bringing it up to them. How did you handle discussing the budget with your folks?

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Jessica is the creator of The Budget Savvy Bride; she launched the site in May of 2008, shortly after becoming engaged. Jessica has been recognized as a budget wedding expert by various media outlets and continues to share realistic inspiration and actionable tips to help brides save money on their weddings. Google

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  • http://www.acateredaffair.net kellie

    it was great to see you. hard to imagine way back in the day – makes me feel old. i am sure your mom probably feels the same – little girl getting married.

    i am glad to see that you are still focused on budget – very important to be comfortable with your priorities – helps tremendously with the planning part.

    we would be pleased to help contribute to the foodie part of your wedding event – how about a friends and families discount?