So, my little brother’s high school graduation party was last Saturday.
Anyway, we have a ton of family from out of town, so it was suuuuper fun to have everyone together at my parent’s house to celebrate. There were a lot of family friends there, too–many of whom we haven’t seen in for-ev-er (You probably know where this is going…).
As the evening was winding down, I was saying goodbye to a few families when family #1 says,
“See you in October!”
The problem? This particular family is not on the guest list. Then, family #2 says,
“Oh yes! We’re so excited!”
They aren’t on the guest list, either.
So then like, what do I do? I felt a few things:
Etc. etc. etc.
…but I didn’t quite know how to respond verbally. I know what etiquette magazines advise, but when you’re in the actual situation, it’s so much more difficult to actually say it! I really don’t want to hurt feelings or cause any waves!
The next day Justin and I pulled out our guest list and added and crossed out and counted and crossed out and re-counted and added and crossed out more and re-counted (so on and so forth) for what seems like eons (I literally don’t even know what an eon is but I feel like it’s an excessively long time).
We’re trying to fix this in a number of ways:
1. No kids. I know. I knooooow. This one is quite possibly the trickiest one and we certainly don’t want to hurt feelings, but I think it’s the best route to take. It won’t only save money, but it will help create the nighttime reception that we really want to have (I want the parents to be able to relax and have fun!) (: Except I know that sometimes, reactions to this type of event are less-than-pleasant.
2. Limiting plus-one’s to only those who have long-term significant others. This one is difficult, too, because it fluctuates. And how do you define “long term”? One of my friends starting dating a guy a few weeks ago–should I invite him, too?
3. Inviting our parents’ friends, but not their (adult) children. We saved nearly 30 people this way!
I honestly wish I could throw the biggest party and have every single solitary person who wants to come celebrate, but we all know that that’s really not in the realm of possibility, especially with a budget! HOPEFULLY, this will keep our numbers a bit more manageable so we can still throw the best party we can!
Do you have any other tips to keep the guest list from skyrocketing out of control? OR any advice on how to respond to people that, like, assume they are invited? Or have any thoughts on adults-only receptions and how to navigate throwing them? I need massive help this week!
Have beautiful weeks!