Comments on: {Katie} The Guest List http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/ helping brides create beautiful weddings without breaking the bank Thu, 18 Dec 2014 01:31:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21791 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:48:53 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21791 Theresa, oh it does help, believe me! It's nice to know I'm not in this boat all by myself (: I wish you mountains of luck with all of your preparations and hopefully your guest list is EXACTLY how you want it to be. THANK YOU!!

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By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21790 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:47:02 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21790 Hi Brittany! I agree with you–it makes me nervous to just have the names of parents (sans children) on the front and assume people will get it. I'm glad that the parents that attended your wedding had a fantastic time and–even better–that you did, too! Thanks for giving me hope that this crazy thing will work out (:

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By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21789 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:43:22 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21789 Thanks, Kate! Isn't it nuts?! You really don't realize how many people you know and are close to until you put them all into a spreadsheet and add them up (: BEST luck to you in figuring it out!! And with all of the rest of your planning, too (although, at least to me, the rest of it doesn't seem quite as difficult)!!

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By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21792 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:40:51 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21792 Oh Kirsten, I LOVE the category idea! That's really how my brain works, anyway (Justin's more alphabetical so our guest list is all in ABC order–the mix of my family, his family, my friends, and his friends drives me NUTS!!). And believe you me, I totally get you on the plus 1 (or lack of receiving one)–Justin and I have been together for like 6 years and there have been quite a few weddings over that period of time that I was invited to and he wasn't :P I have a pretty fortunate situation in that many of my single friends are also in the same group of friends (my sorority) so they all know each other anyway (and I mentioned it to them beforehand so they are all planning to go together!). I totally appreciate your advice though!! And literally I'm going to re-do the guest list in categorical order like, NOW! (:

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By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21788 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:36:10 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21788 Thank you, v.n.! (: it's so tricky, isn't it? I love your advice–I really hope my guests are as cool with it as you are! Most of the singles are in the same group of friends (my sorority, actually), so I think it might just turn in to a fun girls' night for them, anyhow!

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By: @katielynncross http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21787 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 05:32:41 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21787 Oh thank you, Dani! I truly appreciate your advice; it was so kind! (: I kind of have a similar thing going on with the invitees without significant others that you had–so many of them know each other already that I just plan on seating them all together, anyway. I'm so glad that that worked for you! And, although it's less-than-pleasant, it's nice to know I'm not the only one nervous to break the news about the guest list, and how very nice of you to "allow" your little BROTHER to come to your wedding!!

Oh… people sometimes, right?

Thank you!

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By: Alexis http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21786 Tue, 28 Jun 2011 04:31:38 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21786 I define "long term" together-ness, as 2 or more years together, living together, married, or have children together (and are still together).

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By: Molly http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21778 Sun, 26 Jun 2011 11:11:02 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21778 Hi Katie!

I'm suffering with the exact same problem! We have two very large families and, in the end, I also had to cut a number of fairly good friends to keep our wedding at its 100 person size. This was really hard for me and actually resulted in a few tears and some of the first stresses of wedding planning. Finally, a good friend sat me down when I was awkwardly telling her of all our friends I had cut and she said "People are happy for you and understand. Those that matter don't care if they aren't invited and those that care don't matter." Its so cliche, but I really think people will understand. I'm on a tight budget bc both my fiance and I are in graduate school and he felt very strongly that family (at least aunts and uncles and some cousins) should be invited. We also sent an email out to people explaining that we understood our wedding was somewhat expensive (he's from the south, I'm from the north) to travel to and stay at, so that there would be no hard feelings if his family couldn't come (a polite way of gently encouraging cousins to decline).

Also, we did not children & as for the "long term" we set the rule of 1 year or more though my sister has done "no ring, no bring". Just be universal about it without exceptions so feelings aren't hurt.

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By: Elizabeth http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21774 Sat, 25 Jun 2011 01:19:52 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21774 I have run into this, too. It's incredibly frustrating. We actually had a (non immediate) family member say, "I can't wait! I hope I get an invitation." Um… what? Since when do people actually think it's ok to invite THEMSELVES to something. So. Incredibly. Irritating! I was so flabbergasted, I said nothing and walked away. I wish people would not create these positively awkward moments. We've been in two other situations where we had people TELL us they were bringing dates (they are teenagers who were invited with their parents and without dates)… really!? We also had a cousin who was also invited with parents ask to bring a date. Though we hadn't planned for that, and it's still annoying, at least he'd asked politely. Assuming is NOT ok!

Bottom line, it's tough to stick to your guns. I've said things like, "We need to look at our guest list, we're not sure yet if that will be possible."

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By: Dani http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/katie-the-guest-list/#comment-21767 Fri, 24 Jun 2011 09:09:16 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=10477#comment-21767 Hi Katie!
We had a no-children under 16 policy, a because our family, and a lot of our friends, have little children and we just said that "due to the historical nature of the property, and number contraints, we appologise that we cannot invite children under 16 to our wedding". We did make one exception, and that was my little brother who was 8, and I was not going to ask him to not come! Also, the reason we said under-16 and not 18 was because one of my sets of cousins had three over 18, and one who was just 16 and i couldn't not invite her!
Also, it might be a different thing in the USA, but here in the UK, it is acceptable to invite people just to the ceremony and nothing else, which is what we did with a number of church friends, family friends that we just couldn't say not to, it also helped that the church was not the same place as the reception venue.
With plus ones, we had decided that if they were long-term and that we knew about them, then we would invite them. We didn't dish out plus-1s to anyone else, this sounds really harsh, but we have a lot of single friends and I didn't really want a bunch of random strangers at my wedding, especially when I had to say no to some of my family. But I did my own seating plan and made sure that everyone was sat with at least two people that they knew, and because there were so many single people, they weren't exiled to the "singles table" there were more singles than couples really! it did help that most of our friends are from the same city and only a few were from out of the city, and those who were out of the city had partners, so that was our situation!

I hope this helps, I mean you need to find what works for you, and I have been to a few weddings and everyone moans about how hard the guest list works, and to be honest, one of my aunts is not speaking to me because I said she couldn't bring her little ones, but i was "allowing" my brother to come! I mean how ludicrous is that! So, you might step on a few toes, but it is your wedding, and you need to do what is right for you and your groom!

Look forward to seeing more posts!

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