Comments on: Who is Our Officiant?! http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/ helping brides create beautiful weddings without breaking the bank Fri, 27 Mar 2015 17:52:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Weekly Roundup March 11 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-21030 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 15:37:03 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-21030 […] Interviewing officiants is part of our Wedding Action Plan for March.    I’m not sure which direction we’ll end up heading.  Religious, or non-religious.  […]

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By: Lorraine http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20981 Mon, 07 Mar 2011 22:01:45 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20981 part II-

now to the money part. I, too, was surprised that it was standard to pay between $100-200 to someone to officiate your wedding, whether they are a judge, a minister, or a friend. after thinking about it, I decided that's the price of taking someone's saturday afternoon really, whether or not they ask to be paid. Yes, I planned my wedding for 200 guests on $5000 and yes I wanted to cry at the idea of shelling out 200 more dollars, but in the end, that was the money I felt the most good about spending the whole day. That man took the time to meet us, write vows for us, and marry us, and it was beautiful, and I promise, it will feel worth every penny. You can't put a price on feeling completely at peace at the altar the very moment that it happens! My heart goes out to you and your fiance as you make these super tough decisions, and I hope that in the end, it brings you closer together.

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By: Lorraine http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20980 Mon, 07 Mar 2011 21:59:43 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20980 oh wow. Bless your heart, and yes, this is totally where I was when I got married. My husband and I married in Utah, which has rules exactly like Ohio's. My husband and I are both non-practicing mormons, but his family is still VERY active mormon, and not seeing us get married in a mormon temple was traumatic enough for them. Like you, we explored judges, JOP, EVERYTHING you can think of, and it was one of the few things that my husband and I didn't see eye to eye on, and was also a rather emotional topic. There was a lot of worms in that can :)
In the end, we ended up by chance meeting the man who is sort of the on-hand "ordained" wedding minister at our venue (we got married at a historic pioneer village in Salt Lake) and though we laughed about it a little "Reverend Diamond Jim" ended up being the PERFECT person to marry us.

(To Be Continued, my comment is too long!)

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By: jjmb11 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20958 Mon, 07 Mar 2011 13:21:48 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20958 Your story sounds similar to mine—but I am getting married in the church I grew up going to, BUT I want to be married by a person who KNOWS my life, KNOWS my fiance, and KNOWS where we will be in the future. We have asked our pastor at our new church to officiate. The churches that we have found homes in have all be through a network of churches. I do not know where you are in Ohio, but this list may give you a chance to check out an incredible church that preaches the GOSPEL and serves the community from the love of Christ.

Hope it helps-happy searching!

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By: Gillian http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20891 Thu, 03 Mar 2011 16:48:44 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20891 I wanted to comment not because I have experience with the JOP thing, but because our officiant situation is a little unique also.

We live in Washington D.C. but are getting married in Connecticut where my grandparents live. Also, we're getting married near our family's lake house property, which is an hour and a half from where my grandparents actually live, and in the middle of nowhere. Since we have no real connection to a specific church up there, we looked at several different churches nearby and picked the one that fit us best. Oh, but since it is in the middle of nowhere, and has a small congregation, they had no permanent pastor at the time – so basically we had to find our own to bring in. Where do you even start that search? My mom had a roommate in college that she was very close with (and incidentally has not seen since college, but they reconnected on Facebook) who used to be a minister is now a chaplain for a hospital where she lives in… OHIO. I've of course never met her, but my mom asked if she would go out of her way for us and she happily agreed. We do our counseling sessions online, over Skype. She has actually ended up being a perfect fit for us and I'm so glad that we have someone with even a small, weird connection to us and our family as opposed to having to hire someone random. So I can commiserate with you and your stress over this – we not only didn't have anyone automatic we could turn to, the one we found we actually have to fly in. But she was more than willing to do it and I'm really happy with the choice we've made.

So I guess my advice would be just to ask. Maybe start with your minister that you would've turned to initially – you can even emphasize that you don't want to put him out or make him feel obligated, the worst he can say is no. The ceremony is such an important part of the day and it's important to have someone you feel comfortable with.

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By: Janine http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20890 Thu, 03 Mar 2011 16:18:47 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20890 We are not religious so we knew we would need to hire an officiant – we found a list of all the officiants in our city and narrowed it down to those that described marriage and the ceremony (on their websites) in the same way that we did. We knew we found the right one when part of her sample ceremony included a line about the words and ceremony not joining us to each other…but that today was about recognizing a bond that already existed and making it legal matrimony. Go with your heart, it will lead you to the right choice for you. I planned my entire wedding in 2 months and it all worked out so don't worry about it being too late to do it "properly".

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By: Becky http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/leahs-officiant/#comment-20889 Thu, 03 Mar 2011 16:03:58 +0000 http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/?p=8524#comment-20889 Hello fellow Cbus bride! My cousin was married by an ordained minister who does weddings wherever for whoever and he charges about $200. I also know several DJs who are ordained in Ohio and most charge around that price, if not more depending on what is required of them (i.e. rehearsal time). It's worth the price to have someone who knows what they are doing, granted they may not be a close family friend. However, family friends aren't always good public speakers and might rush, mumble or speak to softly. I've seen it happen!

That being said, our church required us to "donate" $500 for having our wedding there. Additionally, the church required that we hire their musician and coordinator at $150 each. And these are low figures from what I've heard and seen.

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