Hey there BSB readers! My name is Michelle and my fiancé Japheth (for those that are curious it’s pronounced “Jay-Fifth”) and I hail out of Astoria, Queens NY. I’m seriously looking forward to sharing my pre-wedding projects, experiences and potential mishaps with you over the course of the next 6(ish) months.
How We Met (the abridged version)
Japh and I met by way of OkCupid.com (yep, that’s right—we’re an internet dating cliché) in November of 2009. He sent me a playful smart aleck message and I was slightly put-off but then I started perusing his profile and there was a photo of him dressed as Cyclops from The X-Men for Halloween and I thought to myself “Well now I HAVE to go out with this guy” (no seriously, I really love The X-Men). Email banter manifested itself to instant messaging which then turned into long text messaging sessions throughout our respective workdays. All was fantastic with the exception that he lived about 80 miles away in a small town in Northern New Jersey. To be honest, at the time even though I found Japh to be completely perfect for me I just didn’t see how we were going to work around the distance. Our first date lasted 8+ hours. By date three Japh wanted to “put this on lock” and asked me to be his girlfriend and the rest is well…moving along quite nicely.
After dating long distance and basically having a “weekend” relationship for 10 months, Japh’s car died. Instead of throwing money into a new car we decided that it was time to see if we could make this relationship work on a full-time basis (having him living in NYC meant there was no need for a vehicle). He moved into my place in October of 2010. Fast forward about 3-months and we find ourselves lying in bed talking about future plans and it just sort of happened organically—we love each other and it just seemed like the natural thing to do. There was no ring or formal “will you marry me” that night, just an overwhelming feeling of wonder and trust.
The Wedding Budget
I’m a numbers gal who loves equations and all things math related. After a bit of calculating I figured that the cheapest and chicest way for us to throw the type of celebration that we wanted without depleting our bank account would be to go the DIY route. Both of us are big on up-cycling so I feel that we have a bit of an edge when it comes to making things. Also, our family and friends are crafty (which translates to lots and lots of appreciated costless labor!).
Our overall objective is to have a NYC wedding on November 5th, 2011 for >$15k with 65 of our nearest and dearests. After conducting a bit of initial research, this proved a risky goal due to the fact that living in one of the most expensive cities means that on top of the ridiculous costs of wedding related items that lovely NYC price tag is attached as well. There have been a few bumps in the road but thus far we’re doing well and keeping on the straight and narrow budget-wise.
To reiterate, I’m stoked to be sharing this life altering experience with you all and hope that the challenges that we face will be both helpful and humorous.