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So I’ve been blog-silent for a few days, and I want to apologize. I’ve had alot going on with work, boot camp, and freelance work- not to mention alot on my mind.
When I first read the announcement on Thursday that Weddingbee had been sold to eHarmony, I didn’t know what to think of it. But after reading through the hundreds of comments that have been left by so many readers I realized that it was a big deal.
There’s alot of reasons why this whole situation bothers me so much. I had aspired to become a bee for SO long- I’ve been reading Weddingbee since I started my job in June of 2007. I loved how personal the community was and how real it was and I loved the projects that everyone shared. I LOVED Weddingbee and read daily for almost a whole year before I even became engaged!! Anytime my google reader updates with a new post, I practically jump on it to check it out. But the details of the sale to eHarmony had left me feeling very unsettled.
I can’t begin to try to figure out what the happenings were up until the point of the sale, and most likely we will never know the details. I just can’t understand why Mrs. Bee sold to eHarmony. I don’t think that it’s a good fit at all. I don’t think a dating site needs to be involved with a wedding site. Even with the stats of how many eHarmony matches end up getting married- I’d be curious to know how many of those marriages end in divorce seeing as 50% of total marriages do. All of the eHarmony commercials I’ve seen have featured people who were matched and married within a year. That’s insane. It’s almost like eHarmony is pushing people to the altar. So are brides who met their spouses on EH going to get priority as bloggers? Sounds desperate to me. I thought it was bad enough that one blogger began blogging on the site before she was actually engaged… Sorry if that sounds harsh, I just don’t think these websites have any reason to be affiliated with one another. (I was lucky enough to meet E the old fashioned way, but I understand that it is hard to meet people and internet dating sites can really take the guess work out of things.)
I don’t know if Bee thought about the outcome of all this on the readers- since it’s always been such an open, accepting site I can’t believe she would choose such a bigoted company to associate with. If they were receiving other offers, I would think she would have chosen a company that practices equality for people from all walks of life. I can”t see how the editorial integrity of the site can remain in tact if EH is editing and censoring posts. Now it”s corporate, and that takes just a little of the authenticity behind the posts away for me. Knowing that reading the site is generating money for a company that I don”t agree with morally- I just can”t see how I can continue reading. As sad as it is, I have to assume that it was for money. They probably offered her the most and that”s why she took it. Unless other companies offered her good money but not the supposed ”editorial control” she now has. (Which can”t be that much control considering the editing and censorship of Mrs. Gingerbread”s post.) It”s funny that Mrs. Bee told me and my coworker after the Martha Show that ”the wedding world is very small.” i find that very contradicting of her reasoning behind the sell: competition, and lots of it.
It”s really a shame… I have loved Weddingbee for over a year, but I can”t bring myself to support the site any longer. It”s a sad time in the wedding blog world…
The more I think about it, the more relieved I am that I wasn”t chosen to be a bee. Because like Miss Flip Flop, who just recently began blogging for the site, I would have chosen to leave.
I”m just so disappointed. BUT- There are more important things in life, however and I will try not to dwell on it by deleting the site from my google reader and moving on to a post-WB blog life. :)
I just felt like I really wanted to say something about all this, because it”s been on my mind for the last few days… hope I haven”t offended anyone. It”s just my observations and thoughts on all of it…

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Jessica is the creator of The Budget Savvy Bride; she launched the site in May of 2008, shortly after becoming engaged. Jessica has been recognized as a budget wedding expert by various media outlets and continues to share realistic inspiration and actionable tips to help brides save money on their weddings. Google

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  • http://www.weddingbee.com Bee

    Hi budgetsavvybride,

    Please check out my most recent post addressing some rumors:

    http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/10/05/rumors/

    Also when I said the wedding industry is small, I didn’t mean that there weren’t competitors, just that everyone knows everyone. It’s the same in the fashion industry. :)

  • http://style-for-style.blogspot.com Laura

    not that I ever got hooked on wedding bee, but I am bummed that now they are owned by a company that does not support the right for everyone to be married.

  • http://thatbride.blogspot.com Jenna

    Hey I’m getting married on Saturday. So much for needing a rock to be engaged eh?

  • Chrissie

    I am as disappointed as you are about WeddingBee, but I just wanted to point out that when two people decide to get married, they are engaged. (IIRC, Miss Avocado had done this with her FH.) The proposal and ring are often just a formality.

  • http://marie-evelaforte.blogspot.com Marie-Eve

    Jessica, I’m really proud of you for deciding to speak up. I completely agree with you.

  • budgetsavvybride

    @Jenna- I left this comment on your blog, but wanted to post it here to clarify for anyone who is misunderstanding me.

    I’m sorry if what I wrote on my blog offended you but I must point out that I said that you were blogging before you were officially engaged- nothing to do with whether or not you had a ring.

    My fiancé and I had talked and planned to get married for nearly a year before he actually proposed. But I didn’t consider us engaged until he asked me to marry him. I don’t know the personal details of how your engagement unfolded before the actual proposal but I never said that a ring makes the engagement official or anything to that effect. That’s all I’m saying, just wanted to clarify.

    I have to admit I did think it was a strange move by WB at the time. Doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy your posts! Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and I voiced mine on my own blog. I really do apologize if I offended you. :(

  • http://rubyslippersbride.blogspot.com/ Katharine

    I didn’t know Miss Flip Flop had bowed out too! Man, that sucks – I was really looking forward to her Disney wedding. :-(

    I’m really disappointed that the sale has to led to so many Bees deciding to leave. It sucks for them, and it sucks for their loyal readers too.

  • http://thatbride.blogspot.com Jenna

    Jessica let’s let bygones be bygones. I like your blog (and I think you might read mine sometimes). I think wedding stress has made me a little defensive. I like that you are genuine in your apology and yet standing by your ideas. I’m sorry I was snarky. You can delete my comment if you would like :) But I DO hope it will help you see that we don’t all have to do things the exact same way to get to the same place!

  • http://amylovesweetlove.blogspot.com Amy

    Hey girl–I had to admit that this post originally rubbed me the wrong way. I’ve been a fan of Jenna’s blog from the beginning and thought that it was awesome that she was doing things slightly differently than the norm. I wasn’t up for the negativitey-but I am glad I came back on here to see that you both had a little “comment-convo” and got to clear things up. Love it!

    Thanks for all of your great comments on my blog!