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The Budget Savvy Bride

While the rest of my posts have been about color schemes, décor, and projects, this post is going to be about the most important aspect of wedding planning: taking care of yourself!

In short, wedding planning is overwhelming.  The balance of wedding planning and the rest of your life is virtually non-existent, speaking from my own experience of course. I eat, sleep, and breathe weddings, whether consciously or not.  I think about my never-ending to do list while in the shower, making dinner, and even balancing expense reports at work [whoops]. This constant background noise in my life has proven to be overwhelming and stressful, and I am willing to bet some of you feel the same way.

While overwhelming, wedding planning is also magical. Here it is, the day we’ve thought about since we saw Maid Marion ride off with Robin Hood in the Disney classic [oh, just me?]. It is so important to keep the magic with you along with the stress, if only to maintain good perspective. Here are a few tips that have helped me maintain my sanity and excitement leading up to the big day!

#1. Take time for yourself, non-wedding related  – After awhile I found myself running around like a mad woman without taking any time for myself between working full time, planning a wedding, and moving [oh yes, I also just moved, great timing. I know]. I found that I was much happier and more reasonable after I took a personal time out here and there. Because I’m an adult now [HA], even taking time out of my day to go to the gym felt like a break for my brain.

#2. Stop looking at countdowns  – When you first get engaged it is tempting to make a countdown somewhere in your life that ticks down until “the big day”. Trust me, we all do it. In my personal opinion it stops being exciting once the double digits arrive and it just turns into a stress clock. Unless you are completely oblivious to what day it is, in reality you don’t need a countdown.

#3. Date night – Oh right, there’s the guy you are walking down the aisle with! Just because you’re planning one of the most romantic days in your life doesn’t mean all other romance must stop! For fun, hit up some of your old stomping grounds to reminisce of a time when you didn’t talk about floral arrangements [unless you did then, because that’s cool too].

#4. Organize yourself – I have found that one of the most challenging aspects of planning a wedding is staying focused. It is so easy to want to try to do everything all at the same time, but that is obviously not very productive. Break your tasks down into groups to be done weekly, and try going at in that fashion. If you finish your weekly task early, reward yourself with #1 or squeeze in an extra #3!

#5. Take time to remember what you’re doing – Don’t forget, YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED! It’s amazing, and easy to lose sight of once headcounts and addressing invitations rolls around. The most important part about all this planning is that you are marrying the love of your life, and what is a better reward than that?

How is everyone doing on stress? Am I the only one that needs to be calmed down?

  1. I'm there too!!! We just hit the two month mark and all of our final meetings are coming up… Deeeeep breaths. :) Great suggestions.

    • Ana R.
    • August 9th, 2011

    I've been stressing out a bit, it doesn't help that I haven't been sleeping right either. I will try some of your suggestions to help get rid of the stress and enjoy planning my wedding.

    • Colleen K.
    • August 10th, 2011

    You are definitely not the only one! I'm just about 9 months from the big day, and my to-do list seems overwhelming! Thanks for the tips!

    • Lee
    • August 21st, 2011

    thank you so much for this advice!!!!!

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