Japh and I “announced”our engagement in February. By announced I mean that after telling close friends and family in person we changed our Facebook status. We had an Engagement Dinner Party at the end of February and after that we kind of fell off the wedding planning wagon. I felt good about the fact that we nabbed our venue, and booked a photographer. I figured “Meh — we’ve got plenty of time”. Then I started getting pressure about my dress. People would ask “Oh, what sort of dress did you get?” and I was like “Uhh…I haven’t started looking”. People approached my response with shock at first and then basically scolded me. “What do you mean you don’t have a dress?”, “I can’t believe you would wait to take care of something SO important”, “You know, you should order your dress like 8-months before the wedding. You really should get on with it”.
Although these words made me moderately anxious I still believed that I’d be fine. I had no intention of purchasing a flouncy dress that would take ages to make or have to be special ordered. I started browsing on the internets sometime in early March and I was seriously unimpressed. Most of the dresses I came across were huge (meaning poofy) with lots and lots of crap on them. I just can’t get behind the Cinderella aspect of wedding dresses. I also can’t get behind the prices. It amazes me that so many of these gowns are $1,500.00+. I mean really, it’s just a dress. Is it important? I guess to a certain extent but there was no way that I was going to spend that kind of dough on something I would supposedly only wear once (“supposedly” will cover the times when I may or may not get caught donning my dress around the apartment post wedding for funsies).
Another factor (outside of my own personal style of having a simplistic wardrobe) is my age. I turned 30 this past April and while I don’t feel as if that’s very old I do take issue with people in general not dressing their age.
The first designer that caught my eye was J Crew and while I loved the clean lines and lack of embellishments it still wasn’t quite what I was looking for. Then one day I decided to take a stab at Yelp.com. Yelp has a section called “Talk” in which readers can ask / answer questions. A simple search for “cheap wedding dress nyc” and I came across this thread. This then led me to Kimera Designs. All it took was one look and I knew that this is where I’d find my dress.
I promptly made an appointment and dragged my dear friend (and bridesmaid) Cathie to watch me play dress up:
Cathie gushed that is was “gorgeous” and “perfect”, and while I did love the look, I felt that the eyelet lace would be better suited for a summer wedding and in November it may look a tad silly. So I tried on one other and then decided that the above would be the dress but in a different fabric. Now the only thing to do was get my stubborn mother who really doesn’t enjoy shopping to travel down to Brooklyn and see the dress.
At this point (March 2011) Japh’s and my parents had yet to meet. We had scheduled a lunch in early April for both parties to mingle and get to know one another. I thought to myself, “well, if my mom is going to be there and his mom and sisters are going to be there maybe we should all go to the dress shop?”. Sometimes I don’t have very good ideas. Next week check back to find out how an unruly saleswoman get’s put into her place and how I deal with Japh’s family with regards to what is a reasonable price for a bridesmaid dress.
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