Good morning everyone!
Can you believe it’s June?! It’s June. Oh my gosh. Within this month, Justin and I get to our FOUR MONTH countdown until our wedding. Throughout most of the planning thus far, I haven’t been too frantic. I keep thinking I have plenty of time to get everything done that I need to, but I guess time is kind of eluding me lately. Anyone else feel the same way?!
Anyhow, since my dress fitting is coming up in a few weeks (eek!), I want to talk about finding it!
Here’s the deal: First, I was/am in mad love with this dress:
To me, it’s perfect: it is the best shape for my body type (holla to apple shaped girls! Haha I liked your post about that, Jenna!), it is simple but unique, I adore the flower and sash detail, and it’s just everything I could have possibly wanted.
The problem is it has like a $5,000 price tag. Cool.
I’m not going to lie, I was sort of down going into the whole thing—I totally thought I would never find a dress in my price range to make me feel pretty. There is so much hype surrounding how the bride looks on her wedding day that it honestly gets quite nerve-wracking to live up to those standards. And when you’re a weird combination of perfectionist, indecisive, self-conscious, and picky, I think it’s easy for this point in wedding planning to go from SPECTACULAR WONDERFUL EXCITING to TERRIFYING INTIMIDATING SCARY.
However, last January, I ventured out to the east side of the state with my mother, grandmother, sister, cousin, and aunt (I know they say not to bring entourages on Say Yes to the Dress, but I absolutely couldn’t help myself). It was my first time trying on dresses and I made appointments at three different bridal shops. Note: One thing that I did do was scope out the price range and reputation of the bridal boutiques online before I went. This was tremendously helpful because when I got there I know that (a) most of the dresses fit into my price point, and (b) I wasn’t getting into anything shady. Sometimes shops don’t post pricing information online, so don’t hesitate to call and ask! Better to be prepared than to bop into an upscale Vera Wang boutique gawking at $10,000 dresses like a weirdo and not knowing how to gracefully make an exit because those dresses cost more than your entire wedding budget.
Anyhow, needless to say, when we got to the first shop, my nerves were out of control. To those of you feeling some trepidation about your own dress search, though, READ ME: After the first dress, it is honestly a breeze! These dresses are seriously MADE to make you look fantastic… I didn’t believe it, but it’s for real the truth. I mean obviously not every dress is perfect for you, BUT if you’re open to a lot of different things, you’ll be set!
The day did get overwhelming, though. Since I watched Say Yes to the Dress avidly, I knew going in that after trying on so many dresses, you start to get confused. I didn’t believe that, either—how do you get confused? They’re all different! But trust me, you’ll get confused. And when you do, take .2 seconds, breathe, grab some water, and don’t put on another dress until you’re ready. I tried on so many throughout the day that they really were starting to run together and it was really starting to stress me out.
Needless to say, going into my third appointment I was still dealing with a bit of confusion. I knew, though, that I really wanted to hit this third store because they were having a dress trunk show for Martina Liana! I definitely definitely definitely recommend trying to find trunk shows because you get a fantastic selection of dresses that shops might not normally carry AND you usually get a sweet discount (score!). The one issue I found is that you usually have to make a decision THAT DAY because the dresses don’t stick around for very long.
And oh-so-happily, I did end up finding my dress at that boutique! It is Martina Liana, so I got to take advantage of the trunk show discount (10% off)! I was a bit nervous making the decision right then and there, but the dresses were leaving for, like, Iowa the next day. I knew that I would constantly be comparing each dress I tried on after that to the dress, so I made the decision! I got it! Oh my gosh!
Literally I am the worst decision maker in the world, but sometimes you just know. Go with your gut! If you love it and it’s within your budget, get it! (:
Now, obviously, I’m very traditional, so Ima leave you hanging until wedding day just like everyone else. The moral of the story, though, is that you will find the dress and it will be perfect and it will make you look beautiful, no matter what the price point is or how much anxiety you have or any other factor you feel might come in between you and a fantastic gown.
So how was/is YOUR dress search? Were you kind of on a struggle bus like me or did you know exactly what you wanted? Anyone else feeling the pressures of fitting into the “flawless bride” mold? What’s up!
Have a wonderful day!
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