One of the most fun parts of wedding planning is choosing your wedding dress, so of course I'd been thinking about what I was looking for. Lace, rouching, a full skirt, cap sleeves….all things I wanted in my wedding dress. I wanted it to have a vintage feel but fall in the right places to cover up spots that are somewhat annoying. My absolute no's for a wedding dress: extremely form fitting, strapless, lots and lots of poof.
I made my dress appointment a month after we were engaged. I have heard stories and seen people cry (on tv) about not finding their dress until 20 or 30 different dresses or places. Oy. I wanted to get started early so I didn't have to worry about that stress. So with the advice of some great friends, I went to my appointment with a very open mind. I said I would try on anything, even if it wasn't part of my vision. Mermaid, Ill try it. Strapless, Ok. Very traditional, lay it on me.
When we got to the bridal store, it wasn't what I expected. Obviously, I have watched too many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress, so I had different expectations. After minutes of looking through the tightly hung racks, we picked out about 10-15 dresses to try on. I was given my own “room” to change into my dresses, but I shared a mirror with another bride.
After trying on a few dresses, you won't believe what started happening……I started leaning towards a strapless dress! I guess I never really tried on a dress that flattered my upper body, so I shunned it away. Part of the reason is because I can be very self conscious of my upper body because of my boobage (yes- a word). I have always been conservative with my tops and a wedding dress would be no different. Plus, I REALLY do not like my shoulders!
While trying on all of these picks, another bride and her mother-in-law started getting chummy with the group. We were mirror mates after all. At some point the MIL must have thought we were the best of friends because every time I would try a strapless dress on and ask my side of the room if it was covering enough, she would chime in with things like “you need to flaunt what God gave you!” or “those girls need to come out more. Show your man what you've got!”
Utter embarrassment! And the shock factor kept getting worse (but funny) as the hour went on. It was time to go.
We left with three dresses we all loved (two strapless and one with straps) and decided to just swing by another shop and see what they had. I didn't have many expectations for this place because it was a consignment shop and what is out is what they have and surely they wont have anything that compares to the other three. But being on a budget, I wanted to look into all of my dress store options.
After trying on a few dresses I would have never thought I would wear, I found THE dress. I didn't have that feeling you see on tv, but I knew. I contemplated for a while and said yes!
I felt so pretty in that dress and while it was nothing like the vision I had in my head, it had elements I loved and added bonuses. Wouldn't you LOVE to see the dress? You'll have to wait until the wedding day recap!
I never thought I would find a dress so quickly, but I am glad I did. And this dress was brand new, the previous bride bought two and changed her mind on the one we purchased. Choosing your wedding dress doesn't have to be stressful- learn from my experience!
Advice for Choosing your Wedding Dress
- Go with an open mind. You never know what you will look stunning in
- Keep your party small. I was grateful for the three people that were with me. Too many opinions may ruin your appointment
- Bring a snack and water. Hangry (hungry + angry) brides are no fun.
- Bring body spray or deodorant. Hah I know this is strange, but wedding dresses are heavy! You can really work up a sweat trying those suckers on.
How many dresses did you try on when you found THE ONE?