When you get engaged it's like you are on a cloud and all you do throughout the day is look down at the new sparkle on your left hand. That sparkle signifies a big change that is about to happen, whether it be in a few months or years down the road. It sure is a wonderful feeling, and first things first it is time to pop some bubbly!
But what happens when the cloud gets filled with questions about picking a date, what colors you want, what season your I Do's will take place, and so on. What to do when you get engaged can be a hard thing to wrap your head around when you are surrounded by so much love (and questions) all of a sudden. How do you figure out what to do first, or even find the time to breathe? Here are the top things to do soon after you get that ring! First you should cherish those newly engaged glowing moments with your Fiancé (you can finally say that- although I still feel a bit weird saying it 6 months later), and then sit down and talk with only him.
1. Talk about your budget.
Start by talking about who you would like to pay for what, and then if applicable who will talk to each person you think will contribute. In my case I talked to my parents and my Fiancé talked to his. He didn't exactly get an answer, but his mother brought it up the next time we were together which was a nice way to not make it awkward. Then you will need to figure out a total, and what you will each be able to contribute. After you have a total number, work on your budget. Next week, I will be sharing tips on how to create a budget.
2. Look into insuring your engagement ring.
I added a policy onto my renters and car insurance, this also got me a 10% discount! All you will need to know for this step is the appraisal value and the regular price value of the ring.
3. Start a guest list.
It took my Fiancé and I 3 months to finalize our guest list, but it was a huge help to have a running list available to add, remove and change things. During this process you will also need to decide who will have a guest and who won't, my opinion on this is if you are inviting someone with a Fiancé or husband, they need to be invited even if you do not know them. If you are inviting single friends or someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend of under a year, they don't need to have a guest as long as they will know another person attending the wedding. A great website to keep track of your guest list is WeddingWire.com, you can create several events (bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc) and create a very easy to use seating plan
4. Start a secret Pinterest board.
I am SO happy these things are around. I have one for my wedding that is shared with my Fiancé, mother and MOH. We can all add ideas, brainstorm and figure out details without anyone else seeing it. I want the day to be a surprise to our guests, and this is a great way to do that while keeping the inspiration.
5. Start a journal and only fill it with positive things.
Whenever things get stressful take a few moments to read what you have noted. This will also be a big help if you decide to write your own vows, I'm sure there will be some sweet words about your man somewhere as long as you keep the stress out of it.
6. Take time to not talk about the wedding.
Try not to make every conversation with your Fiancé about the wedding. This will lead to stress and disagreements during one of the happiest times of your life. Remember to still date your soon-to-be hubby even when you are engaged and married, it will make life so much better.
Remember why you are doing all of this, in the end you will be marrying your best friend!
Are you ready to start this new adventure with your best friend? If you have just started this wedding journey, feel free to ask any questions in the comments and I will be happy to help!
Editor's note: Due to the pandemic, some of the general wedding planning advice we share may not be applicable or possible due to restrictions on events. Please adhere to all current regulations and stay safe and healthy! Get more resources for planning a pandemic wedding here.