After recently purchasing gifts for my maids, I realize how budget savvy I was being by having just two maids of honor. Of course, this is a personal choice. Here is my story:
I have a soul mate. No, not my dearest man. I love him with all of my heart and soul, but since I was 14 my BFF in the entire world has been my soul mate. We’d talk on the phone for hours, share birthday parties because the dates are close, and swing in the parks until our legs went numb.
I’ve had a lot of wonderful women come and go in my life but my bestie and I will always be together. I know this. And dear fiance knows this and knows he has to love her too. I mean, who wouldn’t?
Now, I had always planned on eloping. When I found out that was not acceptable for dear fiance, we had to come to the question of the bridal party pretty quickly. My first choice was no bridal party. It’s not about anyone but Dane and I. Why should we have to fuss with all of these extra details? And I have seen and heard of some FRIGHTENING bridesmaid and groomsmen issues. No thank you.
However, after two weeks of pondering on it my future husband broke down and told me he really wanted his buddies with him. Fine. But, I said I would like TWO maids of honor and no one else.
Here was my issue: I have a sister who I love because she’s my sister and all of that, and then there’s MY SOUL MATE. Who would I choose to be MOH? Mom would be butt-hurt if I didn’t ask sis and BESTIE would be butt-hurt if I didn’t ask her! So I asked them both. Dear fiance kept it traditional with one best man and one groomsmen, his favorite guys.
I have to say, the arrangement is working out really well. Sis wants little to do with this wedding, as expected, and Bestie is ALL OVER IT. She just threw me the best bachelorette party ever!
But my most recent celebration was over the fact that I get to pick out thoughtful, nice gifts for sis and Bestie. I don’t have to find some generic trinket for all of my 10 maids and feel like my bank account was going to overdraft. Plus, when organizing wedding timelines, only having four wedding attendants means less corralling of people. It’s so much easier to stay organized. Choosing outfits was a BREEZE. Seriously.
Other ways having less bridesmaids saves money:
Day-of hair and makeup — less people, less money
Bridesmaid accessories — we bought the earrings, bracelet and shoes for our gals, they covered the dresses
Rehearsal dinner and wedding — less people to feed
Lodging — we are putting them up the night before and night of the wedding
How many maids do you have? How are you keeping costs low?
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