Alright ladies, this is our last new guest blogger for a while, so please give her a warm welcome! Rowenna is super practical when it comes to her wedding planning and I definitely love her no muss, no fuss attitude! She definitely represents a very common perspective when it comes to planning budget weddings, so I thought it was important to let her share her process! She is at the very beginning of her planning so she might help those of you who haven't even come up with your budget yet, since she hasn't either! I hope you love her posts as much as I do! Please welcome and let's meet bride blogger Rowenna!
Hi there to all the readers of the Budget Savvy Bride! Up until this summer, I was just another girl hanging out behind the scenes of the wedding blogosphere, furiously collecting inspiration and ideas into earmarked folders, trying to keep up with dozens of blogs, and pondering what was important to me for my own wedding… all without actually being engaged.
What can I say? I like to plan ahead. I always research every decision I make fully and completely so that I know I'm making the right choice. I knew getting married was in my future, and I was even pretty sure about the “who”, so planning ahead was a logical step. A wedding (and even moreso, a marriage) is a huge deal, so my research had to correspond.
Let's rewind a bit – about three and a half years ago, I met a guy named Nate. We went to the same small college, rowed crew together, and sat near each other at breakfast. He was in my periphery, but nothing more than an acquaintance for several months. (Apparently he had taken more notice of me, but I was unaware!) It wasn't until a few months later, just before the end of the school year, that we started spending more time together. Just as we were getting to know each other, summer break split us up: I headed home to the midwest, while he stayed in town. We spent the summer Skyping and chatting without any real idea of where things were going.
When we got back to school, we picked up where we left off, spending increasing amounts of time together until we finally decided to just date already. Nearly three years, two graduations, multiple family reunions and quite a lot of long-distance dating later, we decided to just get married already.
That's right. There was no proposal, no secrets, no dramatic moment of shock and surprise. I don't even have a ring yet! We just talked things over, and decided that this is what we wanted. A big part of marriage is making decisions together, and doing this as a couple was more important to us than any one-sided proposal.
So, I've gathered ideas and inspiration, but now I am deep in the decision-making phase, and I'm thrilled to be sharing bits and pieces of this process with the readers of the Budget Savvy Bride! Budget is a big part of wedding planning for us – not because money is tight (which it is!) – but because spending a lot of money on things that are unnecessary does not align with our values. We're not DIYing the save-the-dates, invitations, cake, hors d'oeuvres, and flowers because we can't afford it – we're not skipping the limo, tuxes, big wedding party, and an open bar because we're cheap – we're doing it because having professional, fancy versions of those things is not important to us. I have no interest in silver letterpress invitations right now, and I'm pretty sure I never will. And I can bet that when I'm in a sea of bliss in my husband's arms on my wedding day, I'm not going to be wishing I had made fancy bathroom baskets or personalized water bottle labels.
Our wedding theme is simplicity, and joyfulness. Our budget is whatever it costs to have a simple, joyful wedding for the 120 or so family and friends who are able to join us on July 23, 2011 in Maryland. And no matter what transpires between now and then, it's going to be wonderful.
I hope that you enjoy reading about our simple little wedding in the next few months. I look forward to your thoughts and comments!
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