This post is part of a recurring series here on BSB – we share a wedding budget tip every Tuesday to help you save money on your wedding! You can also see past posts (and a sneak peek at what's ahead) on this wedding budget tips page for your convenience and future reference. Today we're talking about Using family and friends for your wedding:
Wedding Budget Tip #12:
If you've been reading this blog for any length of time, you probably already know that one thing that ties together many of our budget savvy real weddings is the help of a couple's family and friends in executing their big day.
I've said it so many times before — it's such a great way to save some money, and create a real community aspect to your wedding planning. I did it for my own wedding — a family friend baked our cake and my uncle played music during our ceremony and reception!
First thing's first — think of all the talented people in your life who could possibly help out with your wedding day needs. Who's a great baker? Know a graphic designer? Or a photographer? Or a seamstress? Or someone who loves to craft? Make a list of your loved ones and their talents, and think of who would be stoked to help you on your big day.
You might remember bride blogger Stephanie used this tactic when planning her wedding as well — she actually posted a call for wedding help on Facebook, of all places, which was met with much excitement and offers from family and friends. You never know unless you ask, right?
When it comes to hiring “friendors” for your wedding (friends or family who serve in place of a traditional hired vendor,) there are definitely a few things you should keep in mind:
- Make sure the person actually wants to help out — don't force anyone to donate their time and talents if they aren't comfortable or can't commit
- Choose people you trust. You probably already know if a friend is reliable or not, so use your best judgment.
- Set expectations upfront, and draw up a simple agreement / contract if you feel it's necessary.
- Don't expect them to work for free — be willing to pay them if they will let you. Even if they don't ask for payment, make sure to plan to give them a nice gift as a thank you!
- Know the quality of the work that they are offering. Make sure it's up to your standards for your day — just because it might be cheap or free doesn't mean it will fit within your wedding “vision.”
Overall, I recommend using friendors when possible, as long as you take the time to set those expectations upfront, everyone should come off happy and still friends when all is said and done.
So consider asking family and friends to get involved in your wedding. Not only will it help your bottom line, it can bring you closer and give you even more reason to celebrate!
So tell us:
are you enlisting the help of your family + friends for your wedding?
If so, how are you using family and friends for your wedding?
Leave a comment below and let us know!
Want more wedding budget tips? Come back next Tuesday for the next post in this series.