How to Make Hiring a Friendor Work for You

Want to hire a friend to work at your wedding? It’s not as bad of an idea as wedding planning websites would make you believe.

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With clear communication, effective boundaries, and a little bit of prep work, you can make a “friendor” situation work!

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Learn how to hire your friend for your wedding and still be friends after.

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Ask yourself

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Your friend’s top priority is to not screw up your wedding. They need to know exactly what you want so they can, to the best of their abilities, execute that plan.

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A $15 gift card or even a free but thoughtful thank-you card goes a long way to recognize that this person is more than a guest.

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you can help your friend and also yourself by setting & communicating expectations, say thank you — and then getting the heck out of the way.

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How to Make Hiring a Friendor Work for You

The Budget Savvy Bride

Want to hire a friend to work at your wedding? It’s not as bad of an idea as wedding planning websites would make you believe.

With clear communication, effective boundaries, and a little bit of prep work, you can make a “friendor” situation work!

Learn how to hire your friend for your wedding and still be friends after.

Ask yourself

Is your friend a professional or is your friend a talented friend? We can work with both groups but how we work with them will need to change.

Your friend’s top priority is to not screw up your wedding. They need to know exactly what you want so they can, to the best of their abilities, execute that plan.

Clearly communicate expectations

A $15 gift card or even a free but thoughtful thank-you card goes a long way to recognize that this person is more than a guest.

Compensate your friendor in some capacity.

you can help your friend and also yourself by setting & communicating expectations, say thank you — and then getting the heck out of the way.

Get out of the way.

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