Le Wedding ParTAY (Also known as, holy poo! There are SO MANY PEOPLE!)
One of the easiest parts of planning The Boy and my wedding has been the wedding party selection – basically, everyone's in. Anybody who wants to be a part of the wedding will have a job or a position – I don't want anyone to feel left out (No one EVER picked me for their weddings when I was younger because my sisters [and then nieces] were pretty and I wasn't – it blew). So at my wedding? Everybody's in. That means we have:
- 1 Matron of Honor (my best friend)
- 2 Bridesmaids (my two closest friends after my best friend)
- 1 Best Man (The Boy's best friend)
- 2 Groomsmen (The Boy's brother and closest work friend)
- 8 Junior Bridesmaids
- 5 Flower Girls
- 2 Ring Bearers
- and assorted teenage boys (some related to us and some just sweeties from the neighborhood) to act as Waitstaff and Dog and/or Cat Wranglers
Aaand…wow. That may look really overwhelming but I grew up in a family with ten kids and a large extended family so my thoughts are – the more, the merrier. And while selecting my wedding party was no biggie (and DIYing a some really cute “Will you be my bridesmaid?” and “Will you be in my wedding?” invitations) – narrowing down the question of who’s wearing what has been a beast.
One of the interesting things about our wedding is that we are both “older” (I’ll be 34 and he’ll be 45 when we get hitched) so, while I lurve looking at the hip choices so many cool young guys are making for their wedding togs these days, at our wedding? It just ain’t gonna happen. See, The Boy’s friends are roughly his age – these are not men who can pull off that quirky bowtie/suspenders/pullover look (without it being visually painful).
So, what to do? Well, from the very beginning of our wedding planning process, The Boy and I had decided to forego rentals and have him wear this charcoal grey suit (with white pinstripes) that he already owns (and I adore on him). It looks exactly like this:
We elected to have the other ‘mens also dig into their closets and find (not matching but similar) grey suits and white shirts. They’ll look something like this (from J Crew):
We’re providing them with striped silk ties that I found at Express (on sale for half off – which ended up being a whopping $20.00 each) and pocket squares (vintage hankies that a sweet friend in California is gifting us):
And for the ring bearers, I nixed suits and asked their moms to provide grey flat-front pants (NO PLEATS – for the love of FugGirls! No more pleated pants EVAH!) and white dress shirts. We’re gifting them these “look how they match the Big Guys” ties (at $6.99 each from Burlington Coat Factory), striped suspenders, and colorful sunglasses:
Next came the bridesmaids, who are gorgeous and I planned to keep them that way on my wedding day (Listen y’all – stop making your bridesmaids look like poo so that you’ll look amazing – YOU’RE THE BRIDE! You’ll look glorious. Stop being petty). I saw this picture in San Antonio Weddings and loved the mismatched bridesmaid dress look:
So I told my ‘maids to look in their closets for a pretty dress in blue and let them wear any color/style shoe they wanted (they’re adults – I think they can handle making these decisions). I plan on gifting them with jewelry to wear the day of and maybe making some matching sashes to tie their dresses together.
The flower girls were actually my easiest decision. YEARS ago, I was flipping through a copy of Martha Stewart Weddings while helping a friend with her wedding and came across this image:
To. Die. For. I immediately ripped it out and have hung on to it ever since. My five flower girls will BE this photo. I’ve bought a pattern and five different shades of pink material and plan on whipping up five dresses sometime in April. I’ll also be gifting them with some type of jewelry and a cute headband.
The Junior Bridesmaids were actually the hardest group to make a clothing decision for. There are 8 of them and they range in ages from 12-17. So what’s appropriate style-wise for the 12 year-old isn’t going to appeal to the 17 year-old and vice versa. In addition, this was the crew that cared the most about what they were wearing so I started collecting ideas right off the bat. But I just could not find anything that I loved. I knew that I wanted them all to wear shades of green and feel “grown up” in whatever they ended up in. Then I had an AHA moment – why not post links to the outfits I had found on Facebook and have them pick out their favorites? Worked like a charm – here’s the one that they picked (from ebay):
So how about y’all? How did you choose what your wedding party wore? Whattya think of my choices? Or are you still wondering if I am, indeed, INSANE for having so many people in my wedding crew? Share it with the class in the comments!
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