Let’s start with whether it’s even appropriate to ask. Short answer: Yes, it is appropriate. Long answer: How you ask matters.Are you coming from a place of hostility and scarcity, or a place of empathy and abundance? What’s the context that is prompting you to make this request?
Because we live in a world where we’re constantly being asked to do everything yesterday, we highly recommend that you set a deadline for any request you make regarding potential changes to a contract. For example, “Ideally, we would hear back from you within the next week.”
Couples often forget how much power they have when it comes to their own wedding. This is particularly true when it comes to interviewing and hiring vendors. You are, in many ways, an employer now. You are somebody’s boss. Please wield this power responsibly.
Wedding vendors feel more empowered to tell people “no” when negotiating due to a backlog of weddings caused by the pandemic. Couples can expect to hear “no” more often than if you’d planned a wedding five years ago.