Honoring loved ones who have passed away on your big day is a common and special way to include those who passed too soon. For me it is especially important because my father is one of those loved ones. He passed away my junior year of college due to a disease of the liver, so honoring him is one of the most important things I will do on my wedding day.
I am a mama’s girl, without a doubt, but in the eyes of my father, I could never do wrong!
My dad’s parents have passed away and they both hold a very dear place in my heart. My dad was the baby of his family and a mama’s boy, so my brothers and I were also treated as though we were a little more special. My fiancé also has dear loved ones who have passed away, both of his mother’s parents and his father’s father. We want to make sure we honor them in the best way possible.
There are numerous ways to honor loved ones, but we have decided to include a “memory table.” Our memory table will feature a sign bearing the phrase, “Those we love don’t go away. They walk beside us every day – unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed, but very dear.” Along with the sign, we will have the pictures of our loved ones who are no longer with us. We created the frames in a very different, yet fun way to go along with our theme – we took wood frames from Michael’s and painted them with chalkboard paint. We will then write who each person is on the frames with chalk, so all of our guests aren’t left wondering who is in each picture. I will share a tutorial on that in a later post.
Along with honoring our grandparents and my uncle, I am going to do some special things throughout the day to honor my dad – such as having my mom, brothers, and I send-off balloons to him prior to the ceremony (I’ve seen pictures of this and loved it!), leaving a chair empty for him during the ceremony, having Reese’s peanut butter cups as a selection on our candy bar (he could and probably did eat some form of Reese’s every day, whether it be the candy or just the peanut butter), etc. These are subtle little ways to include him that will remind me he is with me during my wedding day.
Even though your special loved one may not be able to physically be present, proper planning and creative thinking can provide special ways to honor them, and show your appreciation for their sacrifices.