Your Wedding vs. Your Marriage: Which are You Prioritizing?
Your wedding day is just one day, while your marriage is a lifetime commitment. Are you truly prioritizing and putting the focus on what matters most? Ask yourself these questions.
Sometimes, things just don’t turn out as you envision they will. Maybe you’ve spent hours working on a wedding DIY project only to have to redo it because you weren’t satisfied with the result. Maybe you’ve even wasted an entire day on wedding-related tasks and, in the end, accomplished nothing.
You might feel tired, irritated, and so mad at yourself for not being talented enough to make something that would stun your wedding guests with its awesomeness. Maybe you feel consumed with what others would think about your wedding planning or craft skills that you end up making yourself feel miserable when you can’t live up to your own unrealistic standards.
Sound familiar? If so, it’s time to take a little break from wedding planning to focus on something more important.
You’ve likely spent a lot of time and energy preparing for the wedding day, but what about preparing for your marriage?
Have you looked into pre-marital counseling? Or taken any workshops or courses to make you a better communicator and partner?
Consider spending some of your time and energy learning to be a great spouse instead of obsessing over centerpieces. Rather than re-painting a photo frame because you can’t decide what color it should be, or scouring Amazon for the perfect decorative accent, invest some time into journaling about all the reasons why you’re excited to marry your future spouse.
Sure, the little details of a wedding are great. Who doesn’t love an elegant centerpiece or a beautifully decorated ceremony arch? The visual details and decor make the day extra special and make the photographs look perfect.
But just remember that looking perfect means nothing if your relationship isn’t solid. And in the long run, what is more valuable to you? Knowing that on one day in your life, someone admired your hand-lettered wedding signs, or knowing that your marriage is thriving because you’ve taken the time to completely invest in each other?
Weddings are wonderful celebrations. But if the one-day event begins to overshadow the reason for getting married in the first place, it’s time to step back and re-evaluate your priorities.