Thoughts on Wedding vs. Marriage

Oh my dears,

I had a frustrating day working on wedding decor projects last week – things just weren’t turning out as I envisioned them to. After hours of working on something and then having to re-do it because I wasn’t satisfied with the result, I had wasted an entire day and accomplished nothing. Nothing! I was tired, irritated, and so mad at myself for not being talented enough to make something that would stun my wedding guests with its awesomeness. I was so consumed with what others would think that about my crafty skills that I was making myself miserable when I couldn’t live up to my own unrealistic standards.

Wedding vs. Marriage[This is kind of how I felt. Like just collapsing dejectedly on the floor. Image via We Heart It]

That night, I spent some time thinking and praying. And I realized…I’ve spent so much time and energy preparing for the wedding – what about preparing for the marriage? Yes, we’re doing pre-marital counselling and all that, but what about really spending my time and energy working on learning how to be a great wife, instead of obsessing over centerpieces? What about learning how to love and appreciate my fiance better, instead of re-painting another photo frame because I can’t decide what color it should be? Sure, the little details in a wedding are great, and they make the day extra-special and make the photographs look perfect. But I’m not perfect. And neither is Nate! And in the long run, what’s more valuable to me – knowing that on one day in my life someone admired my hand-lettered signs, or knowing that my marriage is thriving because we’ve taken the time to completely invest in each other?

Wedding vs. Marriage[Image via We Heart It]

Weddings are wonderful celebrations. But if the one-day event begins to overshadow the reason for getting married in the first place, it’s time to step back and re-evaluate your priorities. Nothing is more important to me than my fiance. Nothing is worth my time more than he is (well, except for God, naturally). And if my handmade dessert platters or bridal party bouquets don’t turn out perfectly, well, you’ll just have to deal with it – because I’ll be too busy loving, supporting, and caring for the man of my dreams.

Much love,

Editor’s note: Due to the pandemic, some of the general wedding planning advice we share may not be applicable or possible due to restrictions on events. Please adhere to all current regulations and stay safe and healthy! Get more pandemic wedding resources here.Β 

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