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Pros and Cons of a Small Wedding

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One of the first things to consider when you start planning your wedding is a rough estimate of how many guests you’d like to invite. Everyone should make their choice depending on what is right for them and their families, but we’re here to put in our two cents on the Pros and Cons of a Small Wedding, ie 50 or fewer guests!

The Pros and Cons of Having a Small Wedding

PRO: Budget stretching

This seems like the obvious first and biggest reason for choosing a smaller wedding, and you’re here, so I know you’re a budget savvy bride. With a smaller guest list, you’re open to smaller and even non-traditional venues, which are sometimes cheaper. With fewer guests your budget will stretch further for catering, dessert, alcohol, invitations, and favors. There will need to be fewer tables, so that’s less tablecloths, chairs and chair covers and centerpieces.

For us, we realized we had a certain amount of money to spend. We could either have a guest list of 100 and feed everyone tacos off of paper plates (still fun, I was tempted!) or we could feed 40 people salmon, organic produce and gourmet ice cream off of ceramic plates.

PRO: A more “Relaxed” vibe

I say “relaxed” in quotes because this is the idea in theory, but I have a feeling it’s pretty difficult to stay totally relaxed on your wedding day, regardless of the number of guests. However, at weddings with the guest count at 100+ the couple can end up feeling frenzied, never being able to sit still and have a full conversation, a full drink, a full meal. With a small guest list you have more time to spend with your core group of people, and the receiving line is a non-issue.

John and I went for a small wedding because we both live far from all of our families, and so the opportunities to see them are rare. The opportunity to see them all at once has never happened before. I wanted to be able to focus my love and energy on my mom, siblings, and in-laws, not my coworkers and their dates who I’m meeting for the first time.

PRO: Intimacy

Every wedding is special and ripe with emotion, regardless of how many people are there. However, to me weddings with a larger guest list feel to me to be more like “wedding + event” type feel, whereas a smaller guest list makes for a more “wedding + dinner party” type feel.

Personally, I want to feel free to cry during my ceremony. I want to be completely present while I say my vows. If we had chosen a large guest list, my shyness would have made me feel like it was more like a performance, less like ceremony.


When there are fewer guests to DIY favors and invitations for, and fewer tables to decorate, you can tackle bigger projects. Or, you can be a bit more assured that you can finish those projects. 4 centerpieces? No problem! 20 centerpieces? Possibly doable, but I may lose my sanity along the way.

I’m a crafting sort of person from a family of artists. I knew before I was engaged that I wanted a hands-on experience with as much of my wedding as possible. The smaller guest list has made it possible to make nametag holders, cloth napkins, and our centerpieces, among other DIY projects


CON: People will probably be upset

There are so many people in your life that are happy and excited about your upcoming marriage/wedding. Not being invited to share in your celebration may hurt some feelings. The planning of any wedding will involve stress, and the stress of being asked the “Why am I not invited?” question is going to be more common with a small wedding, naturally.

Hopefully the majority of your friends and family will understand and respect your decision to have a small wedding guest list. An ideal response from them might be along the lines of “I’m sad I can’t come, but I understand your choice. Just send me photos!”

CON: Convincing your financiers

If your parents are paying for your wedding, it will take a lot more difficult to convince them that they can’t invite their own guest list. This is especially true and difficult in the case of a very small or intimate wedding. However, they may be fine with it due to the significant cost savings by having a smaller celebration. It truly depends on your specific set of circumstances in this case.

CON: You can’t invite everyone you want

If, at first you thought, “Small guest list, we’ll only invite the people we actually want to invite!” Unfortunately, it’s usually not quite that simple. It may turn out that there are dozens more people you’d like to invite but have to cut due to space or budget constraints. It might make you a little sad when friends assume they’d be invited but you have to inform them that they aren’t. If you’re a very social person with lots of friend groups, a small wedding may not be for you.

CON: What if no one shows up?!

Wedding planning is a big bag of emotions and anxieties, and small weddings are not immune. A special one that is not unique to a small wedding, but feels more possible, is the “what if no one shows up?!” fear. When you’re only invited 40 people, especially if many of them are from out of town, the possibility of even a few empty seats is terrifying. If 10 people are no-shows at a wedding with 100+ people, they may not even be noticed. If 10 people are no-shows at a wedding with 30 people, that impact is felt heavily.

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