TMI Wedding Questions from Brides You May Be Too Embarrassed to Ask
Ahead of your big day, you may find yourself wondering about some of the less glamorous aspects of tying the knot. We’ve got answers to your most burning TMI questions!
Months of planning all comes down to one big day. You and your future spouse have likely waited a long time for your wedding – it’s normal to feel a bit nervous. With those nerves come questions you might feel too embarrassed or shy to ask. While you might feel okay asking friends about some things, other questions may linger in your mind. We’re here to help soothe your anxieties and address your most burning TMI wedding questions.
How should I handle having my period on my wedding day?
Getting your period on your wedding day doesn’t have to be a big deal. While it can be frustrating to deal with one more thing on an already busy day, it’s important not to panic. Instead, recruit your bridesmaids for help managing your needs throughout the day. Ask them to keep period products handy, just in case. If you’re feeling bloated, you may also want to let your photographer know – odds are good they’ll be happy to reassure you so you can feel confident all day!
In terms of managing the physical symptoms associated with getting your period, consider investing in a box of pain relief patches. These convenient patches affix to your skin to target cramps without the inconvenience of a full heating pad. A warm bath before getting ready can also help keep discomfort at bay. Resist the urge to lay around all day – staying active can help boost your energy and keep you alert for dancing late into the night.
Do you have to have sex on the wedding night?
We’ve all seen wedding nights depicted on TV and in movies. The groom carries the bride over the threshold into a luxurious hotel suite where they consummate the marriage. In reality, many newlyweds find themselves too exhausted to have sex on their wedding night. One survey found that only about half of couples actually had sex on the night of their wedding! This isn’t very surprising – most brides get up very early on the big day to get their hair and makeup done. By the end of the night, you’ll have been on your feet for hours, dancing, mingling, and enjoying the celebration.
If wedding night sex is a priority, talk about it with your partner well in advance. Getting on the same page about expectations can help set you both up for success. A quick hook-up while you’re still riding the high of your big day can be fun, but there should be zero pressure to do the deed.
What happens if you don’t have sex on your wedding night? What if we’re too tired?
Being too tired to have sex on your wedding night is totally normal. Given how exhausting wedding days tend to be, there should be no pressure to hook up. You have your whole lives together to have sex – it’s okay if you want to delay the action for a night and celebrate with room service in bed instead!
If you’re concerned about neglecting intimacy on your first night as a married couple but are too tired for sex, look for other ways to connect with your partner. Talk about your favorite parts of the day, take a bath together, or just cuddle up in bed. Emotional intimacy is just as important as physical intimacy!
How do you use the bathroom in your wedding dress?
Going to the restroom in a wedding dress can be annoying. A little advanced planning can make it less so. Figure out a strategy that works well for your wedding dress silhouette. A sleek A-line dress will be much easier to manage in the bathroom than an oversized ball gown! Practice ahead of time – there are no shortage of strategies to try. We’re big fans of the IKEA bag approach. Grab a big blue bag from IKEA the next time you stop in for furniture or home goods. Fold the bag in and half and cut a small hole in the bottom. It should be just big enough to fit your feet and legs through. Step in and pull the bag up, putting one arm through each handle strap. If your hips don’t fit, cut the hole slightly larger.
On the big day, you’ll want to call on your bridesmaids for assistance. The IKEA bag will do the heavy lifting of your skirt, but you’ll want a friend close by to ensure nothing is trailing out and into the toilet. When you’re done, simply hang the bag up and get back on the dance floor! You may want to designate a private bridal bathroom for yourself on the big day, just so you have easy access and plenty of time to finagle your dress before you go.
What do you do if someone comes to your wedding and doesn’t give you a gift?
When you’re a wedding guest, it’s common courtesy to bring or send a gift. Unfortunately, though, not everyone is able to give gifts. Whether they’re struggling financially or just oblivious to gift etiquette, some guests may show up to your wedding without a gift in hand. It’s easy to feel disappointed in such moments, but it’s important to show people grace. They may have simply forgotten about getting a gift and plan to send one later. Gifts also get delayed in the mail sometimes, so one may arrive after the wedding date.
Even if no gift ever shows up, it’s important to still send thank you cards to all guests. While it might seem awkward, write a personalized note thanking them for their presence on your big day. Nobody is owed a gift, even when they get married. By remaining grateful for the mere presence of your guests, you and your new spouse can focus on the positives and let go of expectations.
How do I control sweat on the day of the wedding?
Sweat on your wedding day is inevitable. Whether you’re throwing a backyard barbecue celebration in August or tying the knot at a ski lodge in January, you’re certain to feel at least a little moisture throughout the day. The anxious excitement of your impending nuptials is bound to cause you to sweat at one point or another. While it might be impossible to avoid altogether, you can take some preventative measures to keep sweat and body odor at bay.
Begin testing out various deodorants and antiperspirants well ahead of your wedding day. Your go-to deodorant will probably work fine for underarm sweat, but you may want to explore using clear antiperspirants on your hairline, on your back, and on your chest. Always give yourself several minutes to dry fully before getting dressed. Moisture-wicking socks can help keep foot odor at bay, too.
On the actual day, keep hand sanitizer nearby. This can help dry up sweaty hands in the moments leading up to the ceremony. You may also want to invest in a small, portable fan. When you’re feeling hot, sticky, or overwhelmed, a cool breeze can do wonders to relax and reset your state of mind.
I have really bad skin, but I want to look my best on my wedding day. What should I do?
It’s never too early to begin prepping your skin for your wedding day. In the months leading up to the big day, consult with an esthetician about your goals. Skincare is highly personalized, so what might work for your friends may not work for you. Chatting with a professional about your options can help you understand your challenges and how best to work towards that glowy, fresh-faced skin we all strive for at our weddings. If you’re really concerned about your skin, consider building in the cost of facials, chemical peels, and other products into your wedding budget.
However you decide to approach wedding skincare, finish up any experimental treatments one month before the big day. This will give your skin some time to breathe and recover from more intense practices. On the day of the wedding, drink plenty of water and use a water-based hydrating mask before getting your makeup done. If you wake up with a blemish, spot treat using salicylic acid and tea tree to eliminate bacteria. While it’s easy to stress over your skin, your makeup artist will likely have plenty of tips and tricks for disguising acne and making you look gorgeous.
How can I keep my breath fresh on the wedding day?
The secret to fresh breath lies not with toothpaste or mouthwash but with water. Keeping hydrated can keep the worst kinds of oral bacteria from building up and creating bad breath. Of course, that doesn’t mean you should forgo your oral health routine. It’s still important to brush and floss, just as you would any other day. Coffee, alcohol, and cigarettes can all contribute to bad breath, so avoid those if you’re hoping to keep things fresh. If you do partake in these, follow up with a mint, gum, or a tall glass of water.
What do I do if someone wears white to my wedding?
Most people know not to wear white to a wedding. Unfortunately, though, guests do sometimes show up wearing white. Perhaps you have someone in your life who frequently tries to undermine your celebrations. Whether it’s your mother-in-law, a friend, or a sibling, don’t be afraid to ask in advance what they plan to wear. If they show you an outfit that’s whiter than you’d prefer, you can gently suggest they choose something else. Those who mean no harm will change their outfit plans, while those who don’t care about your opinion will likely get what’s coming to them.
That’s right – let karma take care of things. If a guest insists on wearing white to your wedding, let them. They’ll embarrass themselves in front of your friends and family, and earn a healthy dose of bad karma. They’ll attract attention for all the wrong reasons. While it can be hard to stomach, try to enjoy your celebration without worrying too much about what guests are wearing. Your love should be the focus of your wedding day!
A little foresight goes a long way
Many of the most common TMI questions about weddings stem from worst-case scenario thinking. While it’s good to plan ahead, it’s impossible to control every possible snafu. Don’t be afraid to voice your concerns about the things that are within your power. Speaking up – whether to your bridesmaids, your wedding planner, or your partner – can help you feel more grounded. It can also be helpful to know you’re not alone. These kinds of questions are incredibly common among brides and grooms. Simply acknowledging the awkward moments can help relieve the pressure and get you focused on what’s important: your love!