When I say, “DIY Wedding,” what comes to mind? Likely money saving projects, but I’d like to flip the switch. DIYing your wedding is all about putting your personal touch into your wedding day. Think about it, everything you do “DIY-style” is a reflection of you!
One of the most meaningful DIY projects you can take on for your wedding day is the exchange of personalized marriage vows with your fiancé. Wedding vows are the foundation of your life together as husband and wife. It’s like your little script to how you’ll do marriage together. Long ago, there wasn’t an opportunity to “DIY” your wedding vows, but today custom-written vows are a special way to personalize your wedding ceremony and share all the reasons you’re marrying your special someone.
But this can seem like an overwhelming task. Writer’s block anyone? With just a few tricks you can master your wedding vows in no time. I’ve pulled together a couple writing tips to help you write meaningful, heartfelt wedding vows.
How to Create Your Own Wedding Vows
Writing Tip #1: Stash a notebook
For the next week, put a tiny notebook in your purse or use any notepad app on your phone and jot down everything and anything that your fiancé does or says that puts a big smile on your face. This exercise will help you recognize all the tangible and intangible things about your fiancé which you can use to write your vows. For example, do you love when he gives you a goodnight kiss or a big hug after a long day at work? Do this exercise for an entire week and you’ll have a great outline for your vows when the time comes to sit down and write.
Writing Tip #2: Start with “I promise”
Sometimes, err, a lot of times, people get stuck on how to start writing. They can’t move past that perfect opening paragraph, but I’ve got a simple exercise to get you moving forward. Don’t even think about how you’re going to start your vows. Forget that for now. Start in the middle with your “I promise” statements.
Now is the time when those notes you’ve been taking come in handy. Open up your notepad and read all the ways that your fiancé makes you feel loved and special. How will you return those feelings? In other words, how will you love, cherish and honor him? Start your sentence with “I promise.” For example: “I promise to always support you in pursuing your lifelong goals and dreams of XYZ.” Let your thoughts flow freely. You can edit it later.
Writing Tip #3: Just do it.
Even if you aren’t able to exchange custom wedding vows at the altar, consider writing them anyway and exchange them at another point during your wedding day. It’ll be a private moment between the two of you that you’ll always remember.
Now that you’ve got the tips for how to create your own wedding vows, do you think you’ll give it a shot?
Editor’s note: Due to the pandemic, some of the general wedding planning advice we share may not be applicable or possible due to restrictions on events. Please adhere to all current regulations and stay safe and healthy! Get more pandemic wedding resources here.