Feeling down about your postponed wedding? Do your best to look for the Silver Linings to Stay Positive
If you’re a bride or groom who’s had to make the difficult decision to postpone your wedding day due to the uncertainties created by the pandemic, you are most certainly not alone.
Countless couples around the world have made these heartbreaking choices to push back their original wedding dates whether by force or due to safety concerns. Many soonlyweds have been dreaming of their day for months if not years, so postponing the wedding has moved the goalpost and extended their engagement.
We know how disappointing this must be for anyone who’s made this choice, but we encourage our community to find the silver linings. Below are some tips for staying positive during this time. We hope it inspires couples who may be facing or have already made these weighty decisions.
Tips for Staying Positive When You’ve Had to Postpone Your Wedding
Find the Silver Linings
There’s always something positive to be found in any situation. Find whatever small benefits or bonuses you’ll get from having a longer engagement. And if you’re having trouble, we’ve got a list for you further down this post. Another great tip is to try some affirmations or reading an uplifting book. Currently reading: Chasing the Bright Side by Jess Ekstrom.
Focus on What You Can Control
Choose to ditch the stress and worry over a situation you truly have no control over. At a certain point, you just need to release your tight grip and ride these waves. Easier said than done, right? Try to turn your focus again to the future, and start looking forward to the new date! Finding it hard to get excited? Perhaps try to find a DIY project or something to further enhance your day that you didn’t have time for before.
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Keep Things in Perspective
Make peace with the change of your original date and also the possibility of having a large gathering if that’s what you envisioned. Take comfort in the fact that you are not the only ones going through this. And keep in mind that there are so many people dealing with so much strife due to this virus, from job loss to health issues. Of course, it’s perfectly natural and understandable to be disappointed, but wallowing doesn’t serve you, my dears.
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Count Your Blessings
Think of how blessed you are and all that you have to be grateful for. You’ve found your person– that’s already a *huge* life accomplishment. How lucky are you to have found someone who loves you as much as you love them in this big, crazy world? If you’re having trouble getting yourself out of a funk, try starting a gratitude practice or even a journal. You’ll be amazed at how much of a positive impact it will have on your overall mood.
Focus on the Purpose
The whole point of getting married is joining together with your person. Focus on the love the two of you share and spend your extra time enriching your relationship. Ultimately, your marriage is what’s important… not just the wedding celebration. Love is not postponed or canceled, especially in these uncertain times. Lean into it, and lean on one another.
The Perks of a Longer Engagement
Whether you’ve chosen to postpone your wedding for an entire year or just a few months, there are some definite benefits to extending your engagement. Check out these perks involved with extending your engagement if you're struggling with staying positive after choosing to postpone your wedding.
Less Stress of the Unknown
Once you’ve come to the decision to postpone your big day, you will almost certainly feel a sense of peace come over you. Removing the uncertainty is half the battle.
More Time to Save Money
If you’re lucky enough to be able to continue working during this time, you’ll have more time to save money to put towards your big day. You can use those extra funds in your wedding budget to enhance your wedding experience, add extra guests, or maybe extend your honeymoon by a few days!
More Time for DIYs
More time = more crafts! Were there DIY projects you wanted to tackle for your wedding but didn’t due to lack of time? Now’s a great time to distract yourself with some crafty fun. Check out our DIY Wedding Projects here on The Budget Savvy Bride for inspiration.
More Time to Invest in Your Relationship
Marriage is a marathon, engagement is a sprint. I’d venture to say that the engagement period is often rushed through due to the whirlwind that wedding planning can bring. Spending extra time as an engaged couple is a GIFT. Use it to your advantage. Invest in your relationship, pour into one another and solidify that foundation for your upcoming marriage. Be intentional about your time together during this quarantine.
Staying positive when you've been forced to postpone your wedding is not always an easy task, but we hope these tips help you find the silver linings. At the end of the day, we can only do our best to seek out positivity in these uncertain times. Choose to look on the bright side. And remember, Plan B isn’t worse than Plan A. It’s just a different plan. The one thing that won’t change? The love you share with your partner.
Editor's note: Due to the pandemic, some of the general wedding planning advice we share may not be applicable or possible due to restrictions on events. Please adhere to all current regulations and stay safe and healthy! Get more resources for planning a pandemic wedding here.