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What I Learned from my Best Friend's Wedding

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Nope, not the movie – though I do like that movie! On June 2nd, my beautiful best friend got married. I can only hope for a few things for my own wedding after being a part of hers. Here is what I learned:

1) Make it fun! – Though the sacrament is serious, the rest should be fun! I hope that our wedding is half as fun as their wedding was – it was a blast!

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Here we are photo bombing the boys during one of their shoots with the photographer!

2) Try to relax – I hope that I can be as relaxed as my best friend was, I have never seen a more relaxed bride who knew everything was going to fall into place because everyone she loved was there and ready to help out. Even when we realized her veil had been left with the woman who did her alterations, she knew we would figure something out (we were able to retrieve it, though the process might have involved “breaking” into her house). Here we are during the “getting ready” part of the day. She had super cute robes made for all of us (mine even has my NEW initials so I can use it after October 27th).

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3) Find the balance – Nick talked about how relaxed and comfortable everything about the wedding was. He described it as this amazing balance between a beautiful wedding that wasn't overly casual, yet you felt relaxed like it was just a party. It truly was so comfortable…besides the shoes of course! Their wedding was so them, serious when it needed to be, fun when it could be, and of course, an amazing after party!

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The bride and her groom live on a farm and he is a chicken farmer. Here we are posting in front of a combine!

4) You won't remember the little things – I don't know if it's because I was in the wedding or what, but I could barely tell you what we ate, what song they danced to for their first dance, if there were flowers on all the tables, what the place cards looked like, etc. I'm sure some of these details I overlooked because when I might have had a chance to look at them, I was with the bridal party having our photos taken, but it made me think about what is really worth spending money on!

5) I made the right choice – I hope that my wedding photos turn out as beautiful as their photos will be. They had the most amazing setting on the groom's grandmother's farm. From photos against a steel grain bin, to a wood shuttered barn and, of course, a red barn. They are going to be amazing and I cannot wait to see them – lucky for me, I have booked the same photographer!! It was something we went over budget for, but now I know we made the right choice. Here's a sneak peek:

6) Have the right people standing with you – I know this is something I knew before my best friend's wedding, but her day just solidified it for me. I thought about having friends in my wedding who had made me a part of theirs (even though we've lost touch). In the end I decided to have my sister, 2 best friends (one of them is the bride above and her sister – I've been friends with these girls for 20 years!), and my sister in law. I know that these people will support me through the process of getting ready for the wedding and on the day of. Not only will they support me, but they will make it fun!!

It was a fabulous time and made me look forward to getting married even more! It also made me really wish/hope Nick and I can afford a honeymoon. I was exhausted after this weekend and it wasn't even my wedding! All the running around, nerves, drinks, and laughs have made me so tired. I can't imagine how we'll feel after our own wedding. I think we'll need to get away for a few days even if it's not somewhere with a white sandy beach and crystal clear water!

Erin Zimmerman

is a teacher living in Baltimore, MD. She got married 2012 in Ocean City, MD. You can read her wedding planning posts here.