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Have you ever bought a bag of clementines and the first few you try are hard and bitter? But you leave them in the fruit bowl with the bananas and after a while and they become super soft and sweet? I started to feel like a ripened clementine today.
You may remember, from my introductory post, that I was never the kind of girl that dreamt of the perfect traditional wedding. In fact, I always said that I would rather elope than walk down the aisle and put on a show. Today however, after scouting reception venues with my mom, I realized I do want a nice event—even if that means submitting to some of the standards I used to be so opposed to.
The first self-standard I broke was that of my ideal dress. I come from a family of seamstresses, so naturally I assumed that I would have the perfect dress handcrafted by my mother and myself. Being the cheapskate that I am, I figured I could get do the whole thing for under $200.
My mother suggested looking at my grandmother’s wedding dress to see if we could make it work. I love classic vintage silhouettes, and the sentimentality of having something my grandmother wore on her special day was too tempting to pass up. So I tried it on!
Adorably crafted antique lace, right? Plus it has the one attribute I really want: long sleeves. But that lace would require a lot of work to brighten and restore to its original glory. I’d also had concerns about wearing this for a winter wedding when it looks so springy! Mom suggested we just go to a bridal shop and try some things on, just to get a better idea for what I might like to make.
We drove to the nearest David’s Bridal and I dug through everything for something that I could relate to. Most dresses in shops right now are very structured, strapless, or blingy because that is what is on trend. My style is considerably more—alternative. So I was about to give up when I stumbled upon the one and only dress that might actually work for me.
Here’s a peek at it from the David’s Bridal catalog.
A beautiful, non-structured, and modest dress with matte looped sequins on a high quality jersey knit mesh. Not only did it fit like a glove, but the price was only $299! I totally snatched that thing up in a heartbeat, with no regrets!
This was not long-sleeved, so my mom and I found some heavy white knit mesh to make long sleeves with ourselves. Hooray for my seamstress mother! I almost can’t believe that I found something so perfect on my first try and at such a ridiculously good price!
After a change of heart such as this, the old Anna might say to the new Anna, ”You’ve gone soft, Banana!”
From the current Anna to the old Anna: “Hey, fruits just get sweeter with time!” I really mean that.
The new Anna is still struggling on whether or not to have a veil. What do you think? Would a veil be too much for this simple dress? I’d love to know your thoughts!