Episode 08: The Wedding Veil
Episode 8 of The Bouquet Toss is all about the tradition of the bride wearing a wedding veil! Learn where this tradition came from and some fun facts about wedding veils to help you decide whether to wear a veil on your own big day. Subscribe to The Bouquet Toss Podcast via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, or your favorite podcast app!
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Below you’ll find the details of what we covered in the episode. Learn all about the tradition of bride’s wearing veils, plus alternatives, money-saving tips, and more!
Why does a bride wear a wedding veil?
The veil is considered “the oldest part of the bridal ensemble,” according to historian Susan Waggoner. The tradition of wearing a wedding veil dates back to ancient times when people would “wrap brides from head to toe to represent the delivery of a modest and untouched maiden.”
Roman brides were swaddled in super long flame-colored veils known as the “flammeum” to scare off evil spirits. The idea was to make them look as if they were on fire to scare the evil spirits away.
Even if you’re not interested in thwarting evil spirits, you may want to choose to incorporate a veil into your wedding day look. “A more practical reason for the veil, said to stem from the days of arranged marriages, was the desire to hide the bride’s face from the groom,” Waggoner says. Check out her book I do! I do! The Origins of 100 Classic Wedding Traditions.
The veil and train also prevented a bride from running away, which was a genuine concern in those days. So, in essence, the veil served as a “demon-scaring, theatrical marital straitjacket,” according to Bustle.
The evolution into a modern wedding veil
Queen Victoria, the ultimate bridal trendsetter, wore a white dress and a veil that draped down her back on her wedding day. As the first modern monarch to be married in a veil, she became the image of what brides aspire to emulate on their wedding day.
Eventually, the meaning behind the veil transformed as weddings evolved into religious ceremonies. The veil symbolized modesty and obedience. Women covering their heads is seen as a symbol of reverence in many religions, so the veil reinforces this concept. Combined with white dresses which were worn to symbolize chastity, the white veil solidified the idea of a virginal look.
Different Wedding Veil Lengths
Veils continue to be worn by most of today’s brides, but there are more options and styles than ever to choose from. Each of the different lengths of veils has a different name, which may include or potentially differ from this list:
- Blusher veil – a very short veil that covers just the bride’s face.
- Flyaway veil – a short veil that ends at the shoulders
- Sweep veil – a veil that just skims the floor
- Fingertip veil – a veil that extends to the bride’s fingertips
- Chapel veil – a veil that extends past the floor, typically 9 feet in length
- Cathedral veil – a very long veil, 12 feet in length
- Royal veil – an epicly-long veil over 12 feet in length
Alternatives to wedding veils:
What if you don’t want to wear a wedding veil on your big day?
You probably know what we’re going to say here. The good news is, you don’t have to. Maybe you’d rather wear a fabulous hair clip or flower crown instead. Not feeling the traditional bridal look? Wear a fabulous hair clip. Want something more bohemian? Sport a flower crown. Looking for something glamorous? Consider a bridal tiara.
Wedding veil alternatives:
- Jeweled Hair Clip
- Flower Crown
- Fresh Flowers
- Go completely veil-free!
Our advice is always going to be the same: do what feels most authentic to you. Wear what makes you feel best. Traditions be damned. Do you, boo!
Ways to save money on a wedding veil
Borrow a veil from a family member or friend.
A great way to cut costs on your wedding attire is to borrow your veil from a family member or friend. Because veils don’t have to be super customized or altered to fit your body or wedding style, they make the perfect type of item to borrow.
Rent your wedding veil or accessories.
Designer wedding veils can be so expensive– sometimes up to thousands of dollars. Renting items that will only be worn once is a great option. Check out sites like Little Things Borrowed or Happily Ever Borrowed to browse veils, headpieces, and more.
DIY your wedding veil.
Create your own wedding veil out of tulle, netting and a comb. It’s actually fairly simple– here are a few tutorials to check out:
Buy a wedding veil from a handmade seller
Browse Etsy for different veils. There is a wide variety of styles and designs from thousands of handmade sellers. We rounded up a group of our favorites in the post below!
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Wedding Traditions Debunked via Brides
- Bizarre Wedding Tradition History via Bustle
- Beautiful Handmade Veils from Etsy
- DIY Rhinestone Veil Tutorial
- Upcycling an Old Veil
As with everything we discuss here on The Bouquet Toss, it doesn’t *really* matter what we think, it’s about choosing what works for YOU and tossing the rest!
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About The Bouquet Toss Podcast
The Bouquet Toss is a wedding planning podcast that empowers couples to plan a meaningful, authentic, and affordable wedding celebration! On the show, we will have candid conversations all about weddings and why we do them the way we do so that couples can plan their weddings based on their own values, and not on the expectations of others.
In our Budget-Savvy Wedding Planning Community, we see the same questions asked over and over again. So many couples seem to be seeking permission to plan their weddings on their own terms, and we’re here to say go for it! We believe you should have your day, your way and our goal is to help empower you to plan a wedding celebration that actually feels authentic to you.
In case you missed it, check out our other episodes:
- Episode 29: Disrupting the Expensive Bridesmaid Dress Tradition
- Episode 30: Disrupting the Traditional Wedding Registry
- Episode 31: Even Celebrities Are Disrupting Traditional Weddings
- Episode 32: Disrupting Printed Wedding Invitations By Going Digital
- Episode 33: Ending Child Marriage
- Episode 34: Disrupting Expensive Wedding Decor with DIY
- Episode 35: Disrupting the Tradition of Buying Your Wedding Dress and Keeping It Forever
- Episode 36: Disrupting the Stressed-Out Bride Archetype
- Episode 37: Disrupting Bridal Shower & Bachelorette Party Traditions
- Episode 38: Disrupting The “Best Day of Your Life” Trope
- Episode 39: Disrupting The Exclusion of Disabled Couples by the Wedding Industry
- Episode 40: Disrupting The Stigma of Couples Therapy
- Episode 41: COVID Wedding Planning
- Episode 42: Your Wedding Vision
- Episode 43: Your Wedding Budget, Phase 1
- Episode 44: Your Wedding Budget, Phase 2
- Episode 45: Your Guest List
- Episode 46: Your Venue
- Episode 47: Your Wedding Invitations
- Episode 48: Your Wedding Day Look
- Episode 49: BONUS: Tossing Perfectionism From Wedding Planning
- Episode 50: The Wedding (formerly known as Bridal) Party